do it yourself

As a married man, as well as the proud Master of my darling slavegirl Serafina, I find that I do not personally have much need to masturbate. But, I'm also very much aware that not everyone is in as fortunate circumstance as I find myself . . .

For individuals with the need or inclination, May has been declared National Masturbation Month.

Enjoy!

Here at Samadhi House, May has also become a different kind of do-it-yourself month, as our schedule for the next 4 weeks is going to revolve around a home improvement project.  

Just last month, my darling slave wife completed the last details of our kitchen refurbishing and remodeling, an ongoing project we started back in January.  It's very nice to be able to finally eat our meals in a beautiful eat-in kitchen!

This month's remodeling project won't be as leisurely an endeavor, as we are tackling the room that's destined to house our Dungeon Bed.  So, there's a strict deadline for completion, as the bed's due to arrive just after Memorial Day.  

The room we're working in is 12' by 18', and it needs everything, from painting to re-flooring.  Our complete budget will go towards materials, so we've got to do it all ourselves.  While that's not an impossible task, it is a daunting one.  I'm usually not one to take on home improvement projects with a deadline looming, but this is the only room that will do the Dore Alley Bed and it's associated sling extenders proper justice.  It simply has to be ready for the bed's arrival.

With all of that in mind, our online presence this upcoming month might be a little sparse.  After all, it's May, and my hands are pretty full . . . 

take this one off my bucket list . . .

bucket list - A list of things to do before you die. (definition from Urban Dictionary)

The term "bucket list" is a fairly new one for me, just a year ago I'd probably never heard the word - (I really should get out more eh?)

It's not so much that we didn't have something similar when I was growing up, we just called it a different name. My friends and I always called such things "wish lists" or "to-do lists", so I guess this isn't a case of an old dog learning a new trick, instead it's simply an old trick with a new name. There might be some subtle differences between the wish lists of my youth and today's bucket lists, but to my eye they are one and the same, just like a quote about a rose smelling as sweet with a different name.

Well, upon discovering the new-fangled invention of the aforementioned "bucket list", Serafina and I began discussing sexual things we'd like to do, and I added in some things I'd like to own, which is probably closer to the wish list concept of my youth than a bucket list, but I certainly don't want to argue semantics, like I said, it's all the same to me.

Which is all part of my very long winded way of saying that through a serendipitous turn of events, I'm about to cross an item off of my personal wish list, the biggest single purchase an individual / couple / triad / polymorphous-perverse-group into BDSM would realistically dream about, unless of course your name is Peter Ackworth and you are in the market to purchase something like the San Francisco Armory.

Yeppers, I've made the commitment, we're buying a Dungeon Bed!  Serafina and I are purchasing a Queen sized Dore Alley model that's going to be customized to our specifications.

I suppose it's a good thing my Mother isn't around to hear about this one, it might have given her a coronary and finished her off. Without a doubt she'd rate it up there with the time I used my student loan money to purchase a pair of ADS Studio Monitor speakers.

Of course some folks would rate spending one's college money on a pair of speakers to be the height of folly, and perhaps it was, but I'll never see it in that light. Up until the last few years, I'd never heard better sounding stereo than that produced by the speakers I've owned and cherished since 1982, and I've know some fairly serious audiophiles.

I'm pretty sure I'll feel the same way about my dungeon bed 30 years from now, assuming I make it that long, I'd be 78, if I'm still kicking in 2042 that is . . . . And, as a strange aside, I met a man the other day who is close to that age, he's 74, who has a 2 month old baby (if you hadn't guessed already, he's someone I knew from politics - horny bastards!) So I'm hoping, like him, that I'll still be doing more than just kicking in '42, although I'll pass on any lil' bundles of joy.

I figure you only live once, and I've always felt it's better to have regrets of being too reckless in my youth, than it is to have regrets of being too cautious. It's that attitude that led me to places like the Grand Canyon and into community organizing, and it's the same attitude that's going to put a bed with a base price approaching $3K into my bedroom.

I'm very fortunate that Serafina shares my enthusiasm for this purchase, as it's not something I'd do without her enthusiastic support and consent. Even if I am her Master, and she my slave, she is also my wife, partner, and best friend.


I know she'd tell me I'm free to do as I wish, as after all I am the Master, and the final authority in our lives.  But, this is as big a purchase as we'll make until we buy our next car. I trust Serafina's judgement implicitly, and if she were to tell me I'm a hopeless dreamer and our dollars could be better spend elsewhere, I'd listen.

She said no such thing. In other words, we're getting a bed! Serafina and I are purchasing a display model which will be shown at International Mr. Leather 2012 (IML2012) being held this Memorial Day weekend, May 25-28 at the Hyatt Regency Chicago.

Boy-howdy the old Windy City is going to be full of kinky folk that weekend. The 25th through the 28th of May are also the dates for the 9th Annual Shibaricon, happening at the Hyatt Regency O'Hare, just a hop, a skip, and a jump across town.

One of the coolest things about any Dungeon Bed, is the great number of accessories that can be added to the base model, things like an under bed cage (shown above), extra restraint points, sling extenders, votive candle holders, removable curtain rods, and top crossbars. A permanent St Andrews Cross can even be made a part of the footboard should you choose.

Although our bed will be displayed at IML2012 before it comes to Castle Samadhi, it's being built to our specifications as we speak.  We didn't add the permanent St Andrews Cross because that would conflict with the sling extenders, which Serafina very much wanted to be part of the package.

The votive candle holders were considered an absolute must, they will twinkle and sparkle beautifully, creating wonderful ambiance, enhanced by the mirrors we'll put on the wall just behind the headboard.  Woot woot!

The top rail restrains were also considered a must have item, and so were the Top Cross Bars, as they are not only sexy looking, but also very functional.  They provide a good handhold for someone getting into, or out of, the sling.

Obviously they can also serve as additonal restraint points for sleepsack suspensions and the like.  The Top Cross bars are actually solid hammered steel bars that are passed through the Top Rail Restraint hoops and then anchored.

Last, but not least, we did add the Under Bed Cage option.  I've always wanted a real cage for my dungeon, not just one of those wire folding dog cages.

I had a large wire dog cage in my dungeon for the longest time, but eventually it was co-opted by my ex, Blissful Torment, to become an abode for her rabbit.  At that time I swore to myself that if I ever owned a cage again, it wouldn't be something for wee little bunny rabbits.

Of course my new cage would be absolutely perfect for a human sized rabbit, or similar creature.  Who's to say what Serafina and I might bring home after our next visit to the woods!  Now we're talkin!

I mean ya only live once, right?

caught Master's eye . . .

I want to love you and treat you right,
I want to love you every day and every night,
We'll be together with a roof right over our heads . . . 
    -- Bob Marley - Is This Love?

There's little or no doubt about it, I'm in love again.  I think it was love at first sight.

Maybe it's just an advanced case of lust that has bitten me, some kind of really strong and overwhealing desire.  But I really do think it's love.

 Either that, or I'm in danger of a full blown obsession developing.  It's really that bad.

Please don't tell her first, because I'm not talking about Serafina, either.

Don't get me wrong, I love my darling Serafina, cherish her more and more each day.  But this crush I've developed is different.

How do you tell your slave/wife such a thing?  How will she react?

How do I explain that it's a long distance thing.  I mean I can't even be 100% sure it's love over the Internet.  I can't be sure because I've only seen pictures of this beauty.  But, I'm pretty sure it's more than just lust teetering on obsession, this is the real deal.

I'm sure I want to spend the rest of my life with this wonderfully built honey, like the song says, every day and every night.

I want Serafina to understand, this doesn't need to take anything at all away from "us" as a couple, in fact, I think my new love can even enhance our relationship.  I just need to convince my slave/wife to go into all of this with an open mind.

Bringing her home is going to turn the household upside down, but I know that's what I want to do . . . What I have to do. I already know I really can't live without this honey.

What do you think readers?  Before I pay the movers, do you think I should ask if Serafina if I'm going to break a hard limit?

I mean it's not every slave'wife who's OK with Master spending $3500 on a bed.

That's right, my obsession is a bed!

For those of you who enjoy, or even cherish, the relationship Serafina and I share, rest assured so do I!  No woman, no other individual on this planet, could ever replace her in my heart.  And neither could a bed.  Sharing this bed with Serafina is at the center of my desire to bring it into our home.

Isn't it beautiful?

Dore Alley Bed by DungeonBeds.com

And, in case you hadn't noticed, it's an incredibly kinky bed!  It's called the The Dore Alley Bed.

I've been shopping for "dungeon" furniture of late, inspired by the freedom we have in decorating our home.  Serafina's children are grown and live thousands of mile away, and we really don't ever entertain in our home, being inconveniently located in comparrison to my business partners.

Over the next few years, I'm planning to make our humble abode a veritable fetish wonderland.  It's my current thinking that this bed will be at the very center of my devious designs.

The bed is sold by both Mr S Leather and The Stockroom, but it's manufactured by Dungeon Beds.  When I take the plunge to purchase one, I'm planning to buy directly from the manufacturer, as they offer some really nice options.

optional Top Rail Restraints 

optional Votive Holders

Looking at the Dungeon Beds site, you may notice the bed's retail price is $2,895.  But with all the options I'm interested in, the price will add up to $3,595, not a trifling sum of money for anyone, let alone individuals like Serafina and myself who are of relatively modest means.

But I'm also very aware that we only live once.  The saddest people I meet are always people who saved for a future that never came, and that's a fate I plan to avoid.

I see this bed as a future centerpiece for our BDSM play sessions.  From a Tantric perspective, it will become our "Sacred Space."   It will become the altar where we go to worship the Divine God and Goddess within us both.

And the bondage potential is just mind-blowing.  With all the built in restraint points, as well as the additional Top Rail Restraints option I'm planning to add, there's really no limit (except for my imagination) for devious ways to restrain, or even suspend, my sweet slave/wife.

optional Sling Extender Bars

optional Top Cross Bars

No longer being in our 20's, or even our 30's, Serafina is truly concerned that she will not be able to please me properly due to physical limitations.  For instance, she's worried that she will be unable to withstand suspension bondage, that the physical demands will be greater than she can endure.

Options like the Sling Extender Bars will assure she can get some of the same sensations obtained with suspension bondage, while being more comfortable physically.  All obtained simply by sitting in a sling that's safely, and securely, attached to our bed.

There's one option I'm considering that would add even more to the price, but the effect it would create (for the right submissive) would be priceless.

I'm talking about the Under-Bed Cage Assembly!

Portable St. Andrews Cross

Can you imagine being locked in a cage directly under your Master's and Mistress' bed at bedtime?

Not that she has any actual veto power, if it's something I truly want I know she'd accede, but I also know Serafina's not sold on the cage option.  Despite my assurances that it would be a place reserved for a future submissive, should we decide to take one, I'm sure she's a little bit afraid I'd be unable to resist the urge to lock her there from time to time.

It could be that is a valid fear.  I do love pushing soft limits.  Without being faced directly with the temptation to have her crawl in to "store" a Liberator Wedge and "accidentally" close the door behind, I can't say for sure.

If given a vote, I am positive that the Portable St Andrew's Cross would be Serafina's choice as an alternative.  The cross is designed to roll under the bed for storage, meaning it's not an option that works well with the cage.

Given my druthers, I'll find a way to get them both!

All pictures associated with this post are property of Dungeon Beds and are used here for educational and illustrative purposes as well as the fact that they are "drool worthy" . . .