free music for your BDSM scenes

One of my favorite bands for background music during a BDSM scene is the group Dead Can Dance.

If you are not at all familiar with Dead Can Dance, they are described at Wikipedia as being "An ethereal neoclassical duo formed in Melbourne, Australia, in August 1981, by Lisa Gerrard and Brendan Perry."

Dead Can Dance's music as a whole is hard to describe, as their musical output is very eclectic. However, despite the wide variety of influences evident, everything from gothic to Middle Eastern and Celtic, their musical output is almost always suitable for use during a scene.

You don't have to take my word for it, nor do you have to resort to some file sharing service to add some free Dead Can Dance tunes to your collection, I discovered today that four complete Dead Can Dance songs are being offered for free via their official fan site - DeadCanDance.com.

I'm not as familiar with either Brendon Perry's or Lisa Gerrard's work as solo artists, but there are a four more free offerings on Brendon Perry's My Space page.

I feel greater then the sum of all my parts

A domestic beast with a hairy Heart's

Trapped within a walled suburbia

I found my taste is somewhat underground

Between the shadows and the cracks

I’m building my Utopia

I need to beak free from all that binds

That makes me old before my time

In this world of Dystopia

My love is like a bright guiding light

Shining in the darkness of the night

The star of my Utopia

In the motion of the sea

in the air that we breath

Can you feel me?

-- Brendon Perry - "Utopia"

office attire - skirts and heels

My darling slave/wife,

I told you the other night that we'd be purchasing a new wardrobe for you to wear when fulfilling your duties as my slave/secretary, and then this morning I ran across this picture on the blog of one of my tumblr followers.

A selection of skirts in this style will be an essential goal of our shopping spree. If it pleases your vanity, I'd allow some variation in color and fabric, but the basic style is not open to negotiation.

You will also be needing new heels, I know, and the pair this model is wearing are really quite fetching. They are a little bit racy for the very conservative investment office I run, but considering that you wore your chain harem / belly dance collar to the office last week and pulled it off without a sideways glance, you might just have the skill and panache to pull it off.

All of my Love,

Master Michael

Serafina's slave assignments

My darling slave/wife,

Begin by remembering the conversations we've had about the male from the Caribbean dance group you once saw, and then make a post here describing that event to the best of your ability.

Make sure to recall your feelings and personal reactions, including the arousal that his manner, actions, bearing, appearance, and style evoked.

thank you my love,
Master Michael

Dearest Master,

One day I was walking in a busy mall with my children. It was a very bustling place and the mall often provided entertainment to attract even more shoppers. The malls there are very large. . Mega-malls that take up many city blocks even. There were school choirs in one part, and eventually we came upon a group of Caribbean drum interpretation dancers.

It seemed to be a family group, with various ages. The little girls were so cute with their coconut shell bra-like tops and grass and floral skirts; each one moving and interpreting the drum-beats in a personal dance. The drummers would play enthusiasticly, at times with higher fast notes that made the girls whirl and bob. The girls were at times joined by the beautiful and sexy young ladies.

They had set up their show not far from an indoor fountain so the combination of rustling grasses, exotic drumming and dancers could whisk one away to faraway lands. Most of the young men were engaged as drummers.

They took a little break but many of the crowd was hoping to see more and being at the very front by the rope, I was crow-locked in with my kids, but not unhappy at all, and in no hurry to leave. I was watching the master drummer, a heavy-set very dark skinned man. He stood up and whispered a few instructions to the junior drummers and moved to the dance floor.

Drums and percussion are very dear to me, and rhythm has always been a strong part of who I am. I remember my mom had very little tolerance for my incessant patterns which I thumped out on any available surface.

The drums erupted into a strong rift and when the master drummer danced his movements were also very powerful and his size did not detract, but added impact. I could feel his sexual energy as he moved, and I was pretty sure I was getting wet panties. He did not say a word but he let me know that in no uncertain terms that he was sure of himself. . no. . he was very sure of his power.

It blew my mind the way he had singled me out and it was as if he was creating his dance purely for my benefit for that exact moment. I felt his power penetrating to the depths of my core, even though I had never met or known him, I felt as though I could melt. Excitement was running up and down my arms and legs, and came to roost in my clit.

As memorable that brief moment was, nothing can compare to the presence Master Samadhi. He is able to cast a spell of pure ecstasy on me, and for him I truly do melt. I have given him the key to my heart and I have the one to his. My desire is to love and honor him in every day in all things. If I fail in even a small way it breaks my confidence and composure so completely that I feel unworthy.

Of course when I feel that way it does not please Master, for he does not set out to make me feel inadequate.   He desires a woman who is confident and happy. He doesn’t expect me to be absolutely perfect in everything, because he is also aware of his own short-comings.

We are perfect for each other, our love runs very deep.

you have my love, devotion and surrender,
your Serafina

My darling Serafina,

Your written description probably exceeds your prior verbal description in terms of the detail of your own feelings. That is very good because I intend to explore to your core and beyond.

I do also appreciate that you've always opened yourself, your heart and soul, to me without any real reservation. So I attribute your written description surpassing the verbal to your slight sense of shyness and the upbringing that has made it a little difficult for you to say words like clit, or to speak about how your panties grew wet.

I do agree with you that we are perfect for each other and that our love runs very deep. I am both honored and excited by the depth and devotion of the submission you have shown me.

With that said, the assignment did not request great peans to the presence of Master Samadhi. While I appreciate the devotion and honor you give me, that was not a part of the assignment and therefore you receive no special consideration for the last three paragraphs of the submitted assignment.

FOLLOW UP - before this assignment is complete, I'll ask that you also answer the following questions: 

1. explain more fully how you felt when he was done dancing . . . were your legs rubbery? - did you have trouble concentrating? - was it hard at all to turn and walk away? 

2. we haven't yet covered any of your prior sexual experiences - but without going into great background detail, please explain if this incident increased your dissatisfaction with having a partner unable to rouse any excitement and unwilling to help pleasure anyone but himself? Did it influence your later search for a more sexually compatible partner?

Dearest Master,

Thank you for the opportunity to answer you more completely.

QUESTION 1...My legs did not get rubbery, however I did get a delicious sensation that is like an electric charge that starts in my neck and travels everywhere. Kind of like a static charge in slow motion. That sensation is so rare that I can only remember a half-dozen times in my life-time getting those. Trouble is, those ELECTRIC sensations are so delicious and come only on very unique occasions. In a sense it was difficult to walk away from the source of those sensations.

QUESTION 2. . . . . I had been dried out sexually, so for many years I agreed with a few other sexless married women, and like them I had concluded that sex was not a necessary or vital part of living.. The difficult part was more that a situation like that awoke that desire.

my love for you is eternal,
Serafina

Thank you slut!  Consider this assignment complete.

Love,
Master Michael Samadhi 10-3-2011

jump into the deep end not knowing how to swim

A few days back, while sharing tea and breakfast with my wife/slave Serafina, I was wandering around tumblr and happened across the striking image that accompanies this post.

Upon asking for Serafina's honest reaction, I learned this how my beloved feels on the rare occasions she might perceive that I am angry or displeased with her in some way: naked, exposed, trembling, fearful, wanting to hide, wanting to cry.

My wife/slave is profoundly submissive, not to mention exceptionally thoughtful, compassionate, empathetic, service oriented, and (of course) obedient.  With such a serendipitous combination of traits, guaranteed to arouse and seduce my dominance, it's very rare indeed that she would displease me.

I love to have Serafina trembling, feeling anticipation and excitement, and yes the occasional anxious arousal that comes with knowing that she belongs to a man who enjoys gently pushing her limits.

While I'm not interested in having her tremble because she perceives any genuine anger, there are very rare occasions where a slave/wife misbehaves and requires correction, and feeling a butterfly in her stomach at the prospect of receiving such instruction is quite desirable.

If you are the kind of individual who understands the subtle differences between those feelings, who is interested in the dynamic behind a very real 24/7 Master/slave relationship as lived by a pair of consenting and mature adults, you are welcome to join us (virtually) as we document our journey.

The title of this post refers to the great leap of faith my slave/wife made in allowing herself to become captivated and mastered, as she had no experience and very little knowledge of the path which she choose.  My beloved really and truly did jump into the deep end of the pool without knowing how to swim.

What rope is used for Shibari?

Shibari rope is traditionally constructed from jute, usually about 5-6 millimeters in thickness, prepared in lengths of 7-8 meters. Practitioners of less traditional versions of Shibari often use alternative natural fibers such as hemp or linen.

Occasionally, non-traditional Shibari artists may prefer to employ rope made from other exotic natural fibers like bamboo, silk, or even coconut coir.   Exotic ropes are often even more expensive than traditional materials like jute or hemp, which themselves are already pretty pricey.

Cotton rope is yet another natural rope fiber that can be used for non-traditional style Shibari.  Certainly, cotton rope is cheaper than other natural fiber alternatives, and often it's more readily available, being found in most any neighborhood hardware store or even in the big box marts that litter the North American landscape.

I used some cotton clothesline for my very first experience with bondage back in 1980.  If I remember correctly, it was even recommended for use by the Joy of Sex.  However, because of it's low strength, cotton rope is much more commonly found in use by Western style bondage practitioners, rather than being seen in actual Shibari.

Although not as commonly employed as natural fiber rope, it's not unheard of for some Shibari tops to use ropes made of synthetic fiber.  Multifilament polypropylene rope (often abbreviated as MFP rope) is a fairly versatile and affordable alternative, however it does handle differently than natural fibers.  For instance, because of it's relative slick texture compared to natural fiber ropes, simple knots used by traditional Shibari are more likely to slip if replicated by MFP rope.

What is Shibari?

Shibari is a Japanese word that literally means to tie or to bind.  Sometime during the decade of the 1990's the word shibari became commonly used to describe the art of Japanese bondage.  In Japanese vernacular the term Shibari actually means the artful use of twine to tie objects or packages, and the more proper term for the art of stylized sexual rope bondage is Kinbaku.

Shibari differs from Western bondage in a couple of key ways.  For instance, instead of just immobilizing or restraining the bottom as is common in Western bondage (often applied to make the subject directly sexually available,) the Shibari subject is more intricately bound.

The more intricate patterns of Shibari often directly squeeze the subject's breasts or genitals. This style of bondage promotes pleasurable sensations from the pressure and strain of the ropes on erogenous zones, but often makes the subject less directly available for traditional genital sex.

The aesthetics of the bound individual's position are also more important in Shibari than in Western bondage.  Japanese bondage is notorious for its use of asymmetric positions which are applied to heighten the psychological impact of the subject's bondage.

Traditional Shibari involves bondage with several lengths of relatively thin natural fiber rope, usually made from jute, while less traditional versions of Shibari often use other kinds, lengths, and even thicknesses of rope.

The acknowledged grandfather of modern shibari is Akechi Denki, who died 17 Nov, 2005, aged 64. Living grandmasters include Nureki Chimuo, Yukimura Haruki, Chiba Eizoh, Osada Steve, Randa Mai and Arisue Go.

Although some of the techniques of Japanese sexual bondage originated with the military restraint technique of Hojojutsu, sexual bondage techniques are far gentler, and great care is taken to avoid injury.

What is BDSM?

Wikipedia defines BDSM as, "A continuum of erotic practice and expression involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role-play."  That continuum might be considered to cover activities ranging from playful restraint and light sensation play like tickling, to spanking and role-playing, and on to more extreme activities like suspension, mummification, and bullwhips.

BDSM is an acronym that is actually an amalgamation of three other acronyms, Wikipedia calls it a compound acronym.

• B/D or B&D stands for bondage and discipline.  Individuals who take part in B/D derive erotic pleasure from activities like being restrained (bondage) and/or being spanked (discipline.)

• D/s or D&S stands for dominance and submission.  Individuals who practice D/s derive erotic pleasure from activities where one individual relinquishes authority or control to another.

• S/M or S&M stands for sadism and masochism or sadomasochism.  Individuals who practice S/M derive erotic pleasure from the giving and receiving of strong stimuli, sensations most of us might otherwise consider to be painful or intense.

When it is all said and done, the term BDSM encompasses a very wide range of activities and subcultures under a single banner.  Because this artificial grouping is a relatively recent phenomenon, only time will tell whether such an encompassing term remains useful or meaningful.