Fetish Gags (keeping her quiet pt. 10)

Quixotic Quieters

"How delicious are these implements of torture."
  ~ Marquis de Sade

The imagination is the spur of delights … all depends upon it, it is the mainspring of everything; now, is it not by means of the imagination one knows joy? Is it not of the imagination that the sharpest pleasures arise?
  ~ Marquis de Sade

Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 10) - Fetish Gags

Welcome to yet another installment in an ongoing series of posts about gags and gagging in BDSM.  Other postings in this series (so far) include:

1. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 1) - Duct Tape Gags
2. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 2) - Introduction to Gags
3. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 3) - Variations on a Gag
4. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 4) - Wiffle Gag
5. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 5) - Serafina's Assignment
6. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 6) - Hand Gag
7. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 7) - Drooling!
8. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 8) - Gag Maker Extraordinaire
9. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 9) - Panty Gags
10. Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 10) - Fetish Gags

Yet again, I'd like to take a moment to remind my readers that the series title is not intended to be sexist or chauvinistic.   Instead, it's a simple reflection of my 30 years of experience exploring the world of BDSM as a heterosexual dominant.

You are who you are, and I am who I am, and that is a beautiful thing.  It is marvelous that we all aren't the same in our personal wants, needs, and desires.  Instead of being offended or put-off by any references I make to sexual orientations that may be different from your own, I simply ask that you change a pronoun (or two) in your mind to bring my writing into line with your own orientation and/or world view.

Fetish & Gags
Human nature being what it is, it should come as no great surprise to learn that somebody, somewhere on God's green earth, is going to have an interesting and unusual attraction to an object most of us do not sexualize.

And, you must also know that if any object that is the subject of an individual's fetishistic attraction and will also fit inside, around, or over a person's mouth, then it's probably also been used as a gag.  In that way, this post is a tribute to the inventive nature of the human mind, and our unending ability to sexualize almost anything given the right circumstance and motivation.

The imagination truly is the spur of all delights!

I have a huge fetish for shoes and clothes and make-up.
  ~ Hilary Duff 

Shoe Gag

Perhaps the most common example of a fetish that comes to mind for most folks would be foot fetishists, people who have a stronger than normal attraction to feet.  Serafina and I had a good friend, Thomas, who was a true foot fetishist.

It's actually a relatively common fetish and probably worthy of it's own posting.  Suffice it to say there are a great number of individuals like Thomas, and an equally great number of body parts and objects that can be fetishized.

Since foot and shoe fetishes are fairly common, it should come as no great surprise that one of the fetish gags being featured in this post is a shoe gag.


Shoe gags are beyond my personal experience, but I've certainly heard of them and read of their use in stories.  I suppose if I ever had a "shoe slut" in my service, it would be worthy of consideration.
As they are often pictured, shoe gags aren't one of the world's most practical forms of gagging a girl.  Any shoe gag I've ever seen looks unwieldy and ungainly, at least to my eyes.


But what I see or envision is not the same as what a true shoe aficionado would perceive.  The point for them is simple, there a shoe is being held in their mouth with a strap.  


The object of their love and desire is in enforced proximity.  The shoe becomes a part of their personal intimate environment.  When a shoe gag is placed upon them, the subject can't escape it's vision, it's feel, it's scent, or even it's taste.


What could be better for an individual who loves shoes, than to be overwhelmed by one in such a fashion?

The Stockroom's Ballz ™


Here's an example of what I was referring to in saying this post is a tribute to human inventiveness . . . What's more inventive than a device that holds your nut sack in a slave's mouth?

OK, so maybe this isn't an invention that's going to change the world.  But it does have a pending patent application, not to mention a trademarked name, to go with all it's awards and advertising hyperbole,

Ballz Gag ™ 
2011 AVN Award winner for Best Fetish Product!
Patent Pending

Put your submissive in their place – and KEEP THEM THERE!


That’s the idea behind the Ballz Gag™, the new and original ball gag brought to you exclusively by The Stockroom, where we aim to take your bondage and cbt experiences to new heights. As unique as it is versatile, this supple leather device puts the “balls” in ball gag, specially crafted to keep you and your partner as close as possible.


The Ballz Gag™ is a very unique collaboration of a gag and a ball stretcher that forces your partner to pleasure you until you release them. One high quality leather strap slips around the back of your sub’s head and another around your sack just above your balls, positioning your balls in their mouth. Don’t think that you are in complete control though! Your partner may be the one with a pair of balls strapped to their face but if they decide to move, you have no choice but to follow, lest you want to lose your jewels. This particular dynamic can lead to an interesting interchange of dom and sub roles. 

I told that neither Don Draper nor Peggy Olsen were involved in the production of that advertising copy, nor did they sit on AVN's awards panel.  In fact, I'm pretty sure no one located even remotely close Madison Avenue could say, "Puts the “balls” in ball gag" with anything resembling a straight face.

Obviously then, it's a good thing we've got folks on L.A.'s Sunset Boulevard, as well as the wizards of San Francisco's Market Street, to pick up that slack.

Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.
  ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"I prefer tongue-tied knowledge to ignorant loquacity.”   ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero

Getting All Tongue Tied

When objects like a clothespin or mousetrap are placed on a submissive's tongue, it effectively serves many of the same purposes as a gag. I'll let you, my dear reader, decide if that actually makes this nifty little trick a gag, or not. In the end, where we might decide to categorize an activity isn't of great importance, it's just another form of human sexual expression.

The tongue is largely composed of muscle, as such it's fair game for some BDSM style play with clips and clamps.  Tongues can be exquisitely sensitive, as you probably know from biting your tongue as some point in your life, there are plenty of nerves that help us to sense our way around our mouth, to prevent tongue biting from becoming a common activity.  There are also taste buds and some significant blood vessels (on the underside) so please use reason and caution.

When putting anything into Serafina's mouth, or on her tongue, I really prefer objects that can easily be cleaned and sterilized.  That actually makes tools like mousetraps and wooden clothespins more than a little bit problematic.  

I guess my squeamishness regarding wooden impliments and their ability to hold bacteria goes back to my youth, when I was training to be a Chef.  I'm not keen on putting worn street shoes into anyone's mouth either, for that matter, but I'm not going to tell anyone what level of safety they need to apply.  

I always counsel to use common sense and a reasonable level of caution with all your life's activities, whether they be BDSM related or not.  As my father always used to tell me - let your conscience be your guide.

“A good memory and a tongue tied in the middle is a combination which gives immortality to conversation”
      ~ Mark Twain 

“Art made tongue-tied by authority.”
  ~ William Shakespeare

It's my personal perspective that we all have fetishes of one sort or another, they are simply expressed in a mild form.  We call them desires, or preferences, but essentially they are all the same thing, and to my train of thought that makes the terms effectively interchangeable.  

If you prefer big chested (or conversely smaller chested) ladies, it is my perspective that you have a mild fetish based on breast size.  If the only way you can get off is in the presence of a individual with a specific breast size, then it's a strong fetish indeed.  

Substitute the word "desire" for the word "fetish" in the proceeding paragraph and the meanings don't really change.  I guess it means that when everything is all said and done, any gag could be considered a "fetish gag" if your particular fetish happens to be gags.  

Happy Easter

Serafina and I hope that our friends who celebrate Easter had a happy and joyous Holiday.

Officially, Easter is the time to remember Christ's crucifixion and resurrection, hence the image of the cross in the opening illustration.

Of course there are any number of ways and reasons to celebrate the holiday.

Although it will never rival Valentine's Day, it would seem that Easter is the calendar's second best occasion for the consumption of chocolate.

Dee devours chocolate (and life) with glee.   The always lovely Curvaceous Dee given the fine art treatment.   
(photo of Curvaceous Dee by Hylas - artistic effects by FotoSketcher)

floggin' floggers - Tool Talk (pt 1)

Samadhi House Floggers (photo by Serafina Samadhi)

Have I said before that I absolutely love floggers and flogging?  This is the one fetish activity I think that I could literally do to anyone who desired a flogging, regardless of their sexual expression or orientation, regardless of their body size or shape.

Yes, regardless of any of those "minor details", I could get a kick out of flogging you, your sister, your brother, your Father or Mother, if your children are of age to consent, and they wished to feel the touch of my lash, I'd enjoy giving it to them too.

Now, before anyone gets concerned for the welfare of their parents, siblings, or children, I should point out that my wild and wanton flogging desires are always kept under complete control.  I'm hardly some kind of psychopathic serial flogger, as I can literally count the number of individuals who have felt the bite of my lash on my two hands, with perhaps a finger, or even two to spare.

In order to earn a flogging here at Samadhi House, you've got to request it, and I actually prefer to hear at least a little sincere begging.  Not to worry though, they really are worth all the trouble, as my array of floggers can produce most any sensation, from mild to wild . . .

Not only am I an aficionado of the fine art of flogging, I'm also a collector of fine floggers for practicing my art.  What I can't count on my two hands is the number of floggers in my collection.  The current home for my floggers, a converted DVD case, is pictured above, albeit a bit blurred.

I have decided to become more dedicated in making posts sharing my BDSM tool collection.  Through the years, I've amassed a pretty amazing array of implements, and it seems that it's high time I shared my many blessings, at least vicariously, with you my dear reader.

Please note that I very deliberately avoid calling any part of my collection "toys", as this isn't child's play.  While the term "play" or "playing" may be commonly used to refer to BDSM scenes in other circles, that's not how Serafina or I refer to our activities.

We don't "play" BDSM . . . We live it . . .

And that's the real reason your families are safe from my lash.  Serafina knows my many talents as a dominant, as her Master, quite intimately.  She very much enjoys my attentions, even when the sensations I create are more extreme, and she's not exactly itching to share.  (Not that I blame her.)

Perhaps someday, if the time arrived where we found an individual desiring to submit to us both, in service and in love, a slave to serve us both, to share together as Master and Mistress; such a reward might be worthy of the price paid in sharing her Master.  Meaning - unless you or your family are applying for that slave position at Samadhi House, I can assure you, my dear reader, that everyone else is quite safe.

So, the only way I can really share my flogger collection (not to mention all my other lovely tools) is to give you a virtual tour here, at our web home.  I'm not going to write reviews in the standard sense, as I won't be talking about packaging or my ordering experience, I just can't be bothered with so much of the other BS that's common in toy reviews I keep encountering these days.

But as is typical with men, I'm willing to talk about my tools.  Entire TV shows have been based around that concept, careers made . . .

Well, my name's not Tim, and my sidekick's name is Serafina not Al.  I can also promise to always endeavor to avoid parroting copyrighted show names too closely, as a sign of respect (cough cough) . . .

With that said, nothing changes the universality of gender stereotyping that continually reassures me that guys are always happy to talk about our tools.

Meaning, I have to ask . . .

"If I show you mine, will you show me yours?"

Samadhi House - Bookshelf Display (photo by Serafina Samadhi)

this Purple Mamba will bite!

A newly revised version of this post can be found at MichaelSamadhi.com.

A pair of true Beauties!

self-photo by Serafina Samadhi - caption by Michael

I've posted before about my love of floggers and flogging, so it should come as no great surprise for you, my dear reader, to learn that my most recent BDSM related purchase is yet another flogger. And let me tell you, this one's a beauty.

I tried a new flogger maker for this purchase, Snake Pit Leather Works, and although I only brought my purchase home from the post office a few days ago, I've had enough time to carefully inspect the quality and workmanship of my new tool.

I am impressed!

My flogger collection is fairly extensive. Although a few of the oldest of my "impliments of instruction" came from unknown sources, all the rest were custom made for me by one of two established flogger artisans, Adam and Gillian or Happy Tails. Both of those flogger makers produce high quality products, beautifully designed and wonderfully functional.

But, I have to say, as well as my previous purchases serve my needs, my new Snake Pit Leather Works (SPLW) flogger looks to be the best of the collection. It's truly a piece of art. Of course I still love all of my older "implements of instruction", but when it comes time to purchase my next flogger, I'll be contacting Nancy at SPLW.

The flogger I commissioned is called the Purple Mamba. Most of my more recent flogger purchases had fallen on the more sensuous side of the flogger spectrum, so I wanted something heavier for this purchase. While looking around online at my various options, I showed Serafina the two pictures from SPLW's website that accompany this post (far bottom), and she fell in love with the Purple Mamba's look.

The tresses or "falls" are a nice heavy bullhide, and, as might be expected from this particular flogger's name, they are colored a beautifully deep shade of purple. Despite being a heavier and thicker leather, the feel of this bullhide is still fairly soft and almost buttery. Running my fingers through the Mamba's tresses is truly a sensuous delight.

The flogger's handle is very tightly and well braided, a real work of artistry. This is what really sets this offering from SPLW apart from the other flogger maker's I've previously frequented. Adam and Gillian's "signature" flogger handles use very different styles and materials than SPLW, so a direct comparison isn't really possible, it's "apples and oranges".

Happy Tail's floggers are made with a similar style handles, so a really meaningful comparison is possible, and I have to say that this is where the SPLW really shines in comparison. The braiding on the SPLW handle is significantly tighter and very much neater in overall appearance. The pictures don't even do it justice!

While this may very well be the most handsome flogger in my case, I don't purchase "implements of instruction" solely for their looks, what matters most is how they perform. Let me tell you, the Purple Mamba by SPLW truly delivers as beautifully as it looks.

I should, however, include one note of caution. Although it's very well balanced, this is a relatively heavy flogger, as bullhide is a thicker leather with significant heft. I didn't use a scale to measure relative weights, but this is the heaviest flogger in my collection.

I love the Purple Mamba's weight and feel. But, it's worth noting that I'm six feet tall and over 200 pounds. Smaller and lighter individuals with less upper body strength will probably tire relatively quickly when using this implement.

The bullhide tresses are weighty enough to produce a very significant thud. When "testing" a new flogger, I always use it on myself first, on an arm and/or a leg. I also will test it thrown over one of my shoulders, much as I've observed Christian penitents performing their own rituals.

It was the "over the shoulder" test that let me feel how this flogger will perform when swung with any real authority. SPLW's Mamba is a nice heavy beast with lots of thud, it can produce sensations much like being lightly punched by very soft fists, like a sudden deep massage.

Interestingly, there's also at least a little bite thrown into the mix of sensations. Despite it's almost buttery feel, the Mamba's bullhide is just stiff enough, the edges of the individual tresses just sharp enough, the textured top grain of the hide just rough enough, that some bite is inevitable.

the strike of the Purple Mamba 
(photo by Serafina Samadhi)

When it's all tallied up, Purple Mamba is a heavy and fairly serious implement of instruction. When wielded strongly, this offering from Snake Pit Leather Works has the potential to be rather punishing. This isn't soft leather taken from Bambi's ilk, it once adorned a mean old bull. There's no escaping that origin, no matter how buttery the finished hide might feel to the touch.

In my experience, it's pretty rare to find this delicious mix of both thud and bite in a single device. Most floggers elicit one sensation much more strongly than the other, but the Mamba delivers both with authority. With a little care, or when wielded by the arm of an experienced flogger who understands nuance, it can also be a sensuous delight.

For a bottom/sub/slave into heavy sensations, this flogger can be used at will during a session, anytime from warm up to cool down, and all times in between. Other individuals, ladies like my Serafina for instance, will likely find this particular flogger a touch too heavy for the very beginning of a session, but should love it after being "warmed up" with a softer and more sensuous implement of instruction.

When it's all said and done, the Purple Mamba is a very special, and very versatile flogger. I think it's safe to predict that it's destined to become one of my personal favorites. Thank you Nancy for creating this work of art!

SpiritualBDSM.com is not associated or affiliated with Snake Pit Leather Works in any manner or form.  The reviewed Purple Mamba flogger was purchased at regular retail price, and no compensation of any form has been exchanged in return for this review.  The two photos that "bookend" this disclaimer are from the Snake Pit Leather Works website, and are used here for review and demonstration purposes only.

poll - not the political kind!

In case you hadn't noticed, my dear reader, there is a new poll on top of the sidebar here at our humble blog.  Considering that I'm writing an ongoing series of postings about gags, it should come as no great surprise that this poll is about . . . . (no drum roll necessary) . . . gags.

I'll never get tired of gags, but if you are like me, you are probably tired of polls right now.  Everywhere we go here in the US these days we are bombarded with poll numbers, polling phone calls, straw polls, perhaps even a poll tax, not to mention the dreaded exit poll coming out of your voting place.

The only consolation I can offer, in asking you to participate in yet another poll, is that a poll about gags isn't going to feature any debates, the candidates are mute!  There aren't going to be any nasty commercials either, you might say that a "gag order" has been placed on the entire subject.

And, using our own unique Samadhi House rules for polling, you can choose as many "candidates" as you might like.  Vote for one gag, two gags, or even every gag if you wish.

As they say in Chicago, "Vote Early and Vote Often" . . . 

No we aren't "rocking the vote" but I promise to give Serafina some rockin' and rollin' a lil later!

Givers we love with a gift we don't

Most of us have been a recipient of a gift that was really unwanted and possibly even hated.  Sometimes it might not be the gift as much as  we object to  the giver.    What did you eventually do with your white elephant? Did you re-gift it? send it back? or sell it at a yard sale?

 If you can't think of a single time when you have received an albatross, did you ever give someone a gift that was under-appreciated?

Under Order by Sadey Quinn

Just days after my slave assignment I was approached by a fellow blogger to consider reading her first book.  I told her that I would be delighted to and she sent the copy of the first of 3 she has already produced.  And I told her I would evaluate her works honestly.

Sadey Quinn has a lot to offer.

The opening of the book was just a little disjointed and clunky.  I was immediately confused by trying to figure out who is Rudy, and who is the "ex".   It made far more sense when I re-read it upon completing the novel.

The story does straighten out and it was fairly simple to enjoy the story.  There are a lot of hot scenes there, some hotter than others.  In fact I think that if the book had opened with a hot hot scene then it would have made the entire book much more intense and appealing.  In particular there is a segment on page that has the following scene.   . . . . Had I read this it would be urgent to get into the rest of the story, because after reading that I would want to know how they arrived at such a steamy session.

The following excerpt from her book is so hot that if the book had began with that, I doubt that anyone would have the will-power to set it down.  Just imagine!  How would you not want to know where this had begun?

"He spun me around, taking in my body, before pulling me towards him for a kiss. He closed the door and pressed me up against it, a hand finding its way to my breast as he thrust his tongue into my mouth. It was not a tender kiss. His other hand made its way up my skirt and I squirmed underneath him, whining, knowing that he'd find my pussy sopping wet. His hand pulled my panties aside and without warning he thrust two fingers up my slit, making me grunt around his tongue which was still invading my mouth. He stopped kissing me and grabbed the nape of my neck, forcing me to look him in the eyes while he finger fucked my pussy in earnest. “Who's cunt is this, my little slut?” he asked, his voice husky. I felt his hard bulge on my belly. “Y.. yours, sir,” I managed to gasp, barely able to speak with him pounding me so hard. “I love that my cunt is wet and ready for me.”"

Sadey Quinn ~ Under Order 

Over all it was quite difficult for me to read the book, and the reason for that is that I can not wrap my mind into accepting all the demands and punishments, and that a brilliant graduate from law school would embrace all; - while not knowing this dude from Adam.  The reality is that it would be completely foolish to follow in her path.  I understand this is fantasy.  Had someone come to me in real time and asked if this behavior was OK, I would likely have launched a conversation about safety, and possibly sanity!

Back to this book.  I think it could benefit from additional BDSM Positives. . let me explain.  There are many scenes in which Heather is so vulnerable and self-doubting that the Momma in me wants to  rescue the poor soul.  She longs for compassion and tenderness but she gets nothing of that.  Instead she is humiliated, and debased beyond belief.  I do understand why the liberated feminists would have a field-day with that.  I wished that there was more exploration about how she was processing with a balance of "what the hell?"   with "oh fuck yes!"

I think this book has a lot of potential even still.  Master Michael who is himself a writer acknowledged that what Miss Quinn needs is an editor.  There were a number of minor grammatical errors however they did not detract from the writings, but a nit-picker might go nuts!

 My kink, Your kink, His kink, Their kink

Picture source unknown

 "If, for example, I see my neighbor's slave sneaking a smoke outside, and I know she's not allowed to smoke, I can discipline her a bit and then turn her in for more punishment when he gets home. On the lighter side, when I'm taking my morning stroll, I'm welcome to smack her on the ass as she's taking her morning Get it?” I gulped, nodding."

Sadey Quinn ~ Under Order 

My quirks and inhibitions differ from almost everyone else.  I am OK with that.  I can enjoy a read that is not my particular color.   Thank you for the opportunity!

Respectfully,
Serafina