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Monday, April 9, 2012

Fetish Gags (keeping her quiet pt. 10)

Quixotic Quieters

"How delicious are these implements of torture."
~ Marquis de Sade

The imagination is the spur of delights … all depends upon it, it is the mainspring of everything; now, is it not by means of the imagination one knows joy? Is it not of the imagination that the sharpest pleasures arise?
~ Marquis de Sade

Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 10) - Fetish Gags

Welcome to yet another installment in an ongoing series of posts about gags and gagging in BDSM. Other postings in this series (so far) include:

Yet again, I'd like to take a moment to remind my readers that the series title is not intended to be sexist or chauvinistic. Instead, it's a simple reflection of my 30 years of experience exploring the world of BDSM as a heterosexual dominant.

You are who you are, and I am who I am, and that is a beautiful thing. It is marvelous that we all aren't the same in our personal wants, needs, and desires. Instead of being offended or put-off by any references I make to sexual orientations that may be different from your own, I simply ask that you change a pronoun (or two) in your mind to bring my writing into line with your own orientation and/or world view.

Fetish & Gags
Human nature being what it is, it should come as no great surprise to learn that somebody, somewhere on God's green earth, is going to have an interesting and unusual attraction to an object most of us do not sexualize.

And, you must also know that if any object that is the subject of an individual's fetishistic attraction and will also fit inside, around, or over a person's mouth, then it's probably also been used as a gag. In that way, this post is a tribute to the inventive nature of the human mind, and our unending ability to sexualize almost anything given the right circumstance and motivation.

The imagination truly is the spur of all delights!

I have a huge fetish for shoes and clothes and make-up.
~ Hilary Duff

Shoe Gag

Perhaps the most common example of a fetish that comes to mind for most folks would be foot fetishists, people who have a stronger than normal attraction to feet. Serafina and I had a good friend, Thomas, who was a true foot fetishist.

It's actually a relatively common fetish and probably worthy of it's own posting. Suffice it to say there are a great number of individuals like Thomas, and an equally great number of body parts and objects that can be fetishized.

Since foot and shoe fetishes are fairly common, it should come as no great surprise that one of the fetish gags being featured in this post is a shoe gag.

Shoe gags are beyond my personal experience, but I've certainly heard of them and read of their use in stories. I suppose if I ever had a "shoe slut" in my service, it would be worthy of consideration.

As they are often pictured, shoe gags aren't one of the world's most practical forms of gagging a girl. Any shoe gag I've ever seen looks unwieldy and ungainly, at least to my eyes.

But what I see or envision is not the same as what a true shoe aficionado would perceive. The point for them is simple, there a shoe is being held in their mouth with a strap.

The object of their love and desire is in enforced proximity. The shoe becomes a part of their personal intimate environment. When a shoe gag is placed upon them, the subject can't escape it's vision, it's feel, it's scent, or even it's taste.

What could be better for an individual who loves shoes, than to be overwhelmed by one in such a fashion?

The Stockroom's Ballz ™

Here's an example of what I was referring to in saying this post is a tribute to human inventiveness . . . What's more inventive than a device that holds your nut sack in a slave's mouth?

OK, so maybe this isn't an invention that's going to change the world. But it does have a pending patent application, not to mention a trademarked name, to go with all it's awards and advertising hyperbole,

Ballz Gag ™
2011 AVN Award winner for Best Fetish Product!
Patent Pending

Put your submissive in their place – and KEEP THEM THERE!

That’s the idea behind the Ballz Gag™, the new and original ball gag brought to you exclusively by The Stockroom, where we aim to take your bondage and cbt experiences to new heights. As unique as it is versatile, this supple leather device puts the “balls” in ball gag, specially crafted to keep you and your partner as close as possible.

The Ballz Gag™ is a very unique collaboration of a gag and a ball stretcher that forces your partner to pleasure you until you release them. One high quality leather strap slips around the back of your sub’s head and another around your sack just above your balls, positioning your balls in their mouth. Don’t think that you are in complete control though! Your partner may be the one with a pair of balls strapped to their face but if they decide to move, you have no choice but to follow, lest you want to lose your jewels. This particular dynamic can lead to an interesting interchange of dom and sub roles.

I told that neither Don Draper nor Peggy Olsen were involved in the production of that advertising copy, nor did they sit on AVN's awards panel. In fact, I'm pretty sure no one located even remotely close Madison Avenue could say, "Puts the “balls” in ball gag" with anything resembling a straight face.

Obviously then, it's a good thing we've got folks on L.A.'s Sunset Boulevard, as well as the wizards of San Francisco's Market Street, to pick up that slack.

Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"I prefer tongue-tied knowledge to ignorant loquacity.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero

Getting All Tongue Tied

When objects like a clothespin or mousetrap are placed on a submissive's tongue, it effectively serves many of the same purposes as a gag. I'll let you, my dear reader, decide if that actually makes this nifty little trick a gag, or not. In the end, where we might decide to categorize an activity isn't of great importance, it's just another form of human sexual expression.

The tongue is largely composed of muscle, as such it's fair game for some BDSM style play with clips and clamps. Tongues can be exquisitely sensitive, as you probably know from biting your tongue as some point in your life, there are plenty of nerves that help us to sense our way around our mouth, to prevent tongue biting from becoming a common activity. There are also taste buds and some significant blood vessels (on the underside) so please use reason and caution.

When putting anything into Serafina's mouth, or on her tongue, I really prefer objects that can easily be cleaned and sterilized. That actually makes tools like mousetraps and wooden clothespins more than a little bit problematic.

I guess my squeamishness regarding wooden impliments and their ability to hold bacteria goes back to my youth, when I was training to be a Chef. I'm not keen on putting worn street shoes into anyone's mouth either, for that matter, but I'm not going to tell anyone what level of safety they need to apply.

I always counsel to use common sense and a reasonable level of caution with all your life's activities, whether they be BDSM related or not. As my father always used to tell me - let your conscience be your guide.

“A good memory and a tongue tied in the middle is a combination which gives immortality to conversation”
~ Mark Twain

“Art made tongue-tied by authority.”
~ William Shakespeare

It's my personal perspective that we all have fetishes of one sort or another, they are simply expressed in a mild form. We call them desires, or preferences, but essentially they are all the same thing, and to my train of thought that makes the terms effectively interchangeable.

If you prefer big chested (or conversely smaller chested) ladies, it is my perspective that you have a mild fetish based on breast size. If the only way you can get off is in the presence of a individual with a specific breast size, then it's a strong fetish indeed.

Substitute the word "desire" for the word "fetish" in the proceeding paragraph and the meanings don't really change. I guess it means that when everything is all said and done, any gag could be considered a "fetish gag" if your particular fetish happens to be gags.

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

poll - not the political kind!

In case you hadn't noticed, my dear reader, there is a new poll on top of the sidebar here at our humble blog. Considering that I'm writing an ongoing series of postings about gags, it should come as no great surprise that this poll is about . . . . (no drum roll necessary) . . . gags.

I'll never get tired of gags, but if you are like me, you are probably tired of polls right now. Everywhere we go here in the US these days we are bombarded with poll numbers, polling phone calls, straw polls, perhaps even a poll tax, not to mention the dreaded exit poll coming out of your voting place.

The only consolation I can offer, in asking you to participate in yet another poll, is that a poll about gags isn't going to feature any debates, the candidates are mute! There aren't going to be any nasty commercials either, you might say that a "gag order" has been placed on the entire subject.

And, using our own unique Samadhi House rules for polling, you can choose as many "candidates" as you might like. Vote for one gag, two gags, or even every gag if you wish.

As they say in Chicago, "Vote Early and Vote Often" . . .

No we aren't "rocking the vote" but I promise to give Serafina some rockin' and rollin' a lil later!

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Panty Gags (keeping her quiet pt. 9)

Inserting Intimates

Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 9) - Panty Gags

Welcome to another installment in an ongoing discussion about gags and gagging in BDSM. Other postings in this series (so far) include:

Once again, I'd like to remind my readers that the series title is not intended to be chauvinistic or sexist. Instead, it's a reflection of my 30 years of experience exploring the world of BDSM as a heterosexual dominant.

You are who you are, and I am who I am, and it's a beautiful thing that we all aren't the same in our personal wants, needs, and desires. Instead of being offended by any references I make to sexual orientation that might be different from your own personal sexual sensibilities, I simply ask that you change a pronoun (or two) in your mind to bring my writing into line with your own sexual orientation and/or world view.

i absolutely love it when my hubby ties me up and take my panties off and force them in my mouth no matter how much i tell him to stop. the taste of my own panties is a huge turn on for me and he also loves doing it. then he would secure my mouth with a silk scarf and threaten to spank me if i dont keep quiet. he just loves watching me there tasting my own panties.
~ Sharin

The right pair can get your day off to a sexy start, either because they remind you of someone or rub against you maddeningly. You can lick your lovers through their drawers, teasing them and making the underwear part of foreplay. Panties make a great gag if you want to muffle loud moans or screams (consensually, of course). Panties can also be used to bind ankles, either for masturbation or as part of a bondage scene.
~ Rachel Kramer Bussel - The Village Voice

Panties as a Gag

Lingerie is like wrapping on a Christmas Present, it makes everything underneath just a little more special. While I always find a naked woman's body to be beautiful, there's something especially attractive about the allure of a partially clothed lady.

I've always had a great appreciation for women's lingerie, it's one of my earliest sexual memories. I prefer luxurious, lacy, and expensive lingerie.

I think part of the fascination with women's underwear comes from growing up in the 1970's and being exposed on a fairly regular basis to magazines like Playboy and Penthouse. Models in those magazines were often adorned with the finest lingerie to be found, so I guess it's no surprise that I developed a strong taste for the "good stuff".

I didn't just look at the pictures, I read the magazines from cover to cover, absorbing everything from lush advertisements to letters from readers. It was there, in Letters to Penthouse, that I first read about panty gags. And, from that very first reading, I was fascinated.

I was just 18 years old the initial time I used a panty gag on a woman, my first wife Charlie. In retrospect I understand that Charlie was far more submissive than I realized at the time, certainly she was a kinky dream for a young man such as myself to conquer.

We'd already lived together for two months, so we'd explored most of our vanilla desires while dating. I wanted to do something special for our wedding night, so I decided to introduce Charlie to bondage, and my plans included a panty gag.

I'm thinking that the full story of tying up my first wife on our wedding night should be reserved for another time, so suffice it to say that I did live out my plan, Charlie got her first taste of a panty gag that night. I loved stripping off her panties and wadding them up before stuffing them into her mouth. I also loved the helpless coos and mews she made as we fucked.

Some prefer to use them straight from her lingerie drawer, but for many others the only proper way to use panties as a gag is when they are freshly peeled off their intended victim's hips. I can appreciate both methods.

When I'm feeling kind and generous, there is a certain elegance about using a fresh pair from the dresser. A well trained submissive will keep her lingerie drawer(s) in order, so a proper Master can expect crisply folded intimate wear to be easily available at all times, should they choose this option. If you are just getting started with this kind of play, and your submissive is perhaps a little hesitant about trying a panty gag, it's usually easier to convince her to try a pair that's been freshly laundered.

With that said, there is almost always a different mindset for the submissive when the panties are just peeled off. When used as a gag, already worn panties are usually more humiliating for the submissive to endure. In some cases that might mean they are also more exciting, it all depends on how you and your submissive respond to play with intimate apparel.

Delicious Humiliation

There is no escaping a panty gag's extreme brand of enforced intimacy. So, in my eyes, the ultimate panty gag is one soaking wet with the submissive's own juices.

Not everyone would agree, but to my eyes that's the best reason to use a panty gag, to force the "victim" to taste her own excitement. I'm sure that I remember that being stressed in those letters to Penthouse I read oh so many years ago. That's the most delicious element of this particular gag (pardon my pun).

As with all things in life, your mileage may vary. My kink may not be your kink, so if the thought of stuffing a worn/soiled pair of your girlfriend's panties into her mouth really freaks you (or her) out, that's ok, there are still plenty of avenues to explore, just focus on the activities that do turn you on . . .

If you are a Mistress, you also have an alternative a Master like myself will never have, the added option of of using your own panties as a gag, then your slave can taste you instead of herself. It's a very interesting twist and turn of events, as well as a bit different element of psychology, but only available to panty wearing dominants.

I have read gay male porn where a sweaty jockstrap is used as a gag, so I do know for a fact that some people turn the tables on this equation and use male undergarments for gagging. But, we are getting into an area of gag play where I have no personal experience.

While I've never encountered a female submissive who fantasized about, or in any manner could eroticize, a sweaty jock strap being shoved into her mouth, I'm sure there are some out there.

I'd imagine the psychology to be similar to the use of a panty gag, I just don't know. Perhaps someone with experience being gagged with male undergarments could leave a comment?

Some panties make better gags than others. Little itty-bitty stringy thingies, my name for panties with no real material to speak of, are not very useful as gags. There's just not enough of anything for them to work, unless you'd like her to chew on her itty-bitty stringy thingy like a stick of gum, but that's about the only option they offer.

Most other panty designs can be used successfully as gags. In some cases, a more generous pair of panties actually offers a few more options (see illustration below.) Just remember that the biggest risk associated with a panty gag (or any other gag for that matter,) is the risk of choking.

With that in mind, a more generous pair of panties that have been folded into a nice ball that fits on my palm makes the ideal panty gag, at least that's my personal preference. A nice length of hemp or jute rope can be threaded through the panty ball, or the panty ball can be folded around the rope, which ever method seems to work better for you is the one to use.

The rope helps to secure the panties in place, preventing them from being spit out or swallowed deeply enough to choke, an elegant solution to the two biggest issues involving panty gags. A pair of women's nylons can be substituted for the rope, and I'm sure that you, my dear reader will come up with even more alternatives I've never imagined . . .

Imagination's a wonderful thing, ain't it?

As you can see from the illustration (above) it's also possible to use a panties in coordination with other kinds of gags. I remember a variant of this particular use for panties being mentioned, of all places, in the Joy of Sex by Alex Comfort.

It wasn't offered as a gag, but panties over the face and/or mouth/nose were suggested for use on a bound male to keep him "connected" to his female partner as he lay bound while being slowly and tortuously masturbated. If you don't remember that advice from that old classic text, you better go back and read it again!

Most folks think that panties worn over the face look rather ridiculous, I'd tend to agree. Perhaps that's part of the point, as it does further increase the humiliation of the submissive, if that's your kind of kink.

I know my ex-wife shuddered at the mere threat of having it done to her, as she'll never forget the one time I put panties on her head in this fashion, the crotch of her panties wet from her own excitement, now pressed right over her nose and mouth.

Safety - First & Always
No discussion of any sort of gag is complete without at least a nod to safety concerns, and it should be noted that panty gags are no different. Panty gags do present a choking hazard, so they should be always be used in an attentive fashion.

BDSM should only be practiced with consenting partners, and that's especially true for gags. It's my experience that gags are often the very first truly scary and edgy practice that a submissive is asked to participate in by her dominant, and it's true that gags are something that should only be used when there is a good level of trust built up between partners.

This isn't the place to go over all of the factors a submissive should consider before playing with a partner they do not know well, simply suffice it to say that being gagged puts the submissive into a very vulnerable position. So, it should only be negotiated and considered once partners have developed knowledge of each other's personality and style, and time has been taken for real trust to develop.

As I said before, playing safe is always the top priority, so always monitor an individual who has been gagged, never leave them alone, not even for a few moments. Even the best designed and most well thought out panty gag can slip and cause choking, and that is something that can not ever be allowed to happen to an unattended individual. There is only one solution to that particular problem, never leave a gagged submissive alone!

Also, it's vitally important to have prearranged safe-signals in place (since gags make safewords unintelligible) before using a gag on anyone. It's also important to cultivate an environment where the submissive knows it is ok to use her safeword. If she's afraid to use her safeword because of emotional recriminations on the part of the dominant when it is used, actual safety is greatly diminished or even eliminated.

Always remember my favorite quote from Guy Baldwin:

It is not enough for Masters to thrive on control; They must also crave responsibility and approach ownership with integrity, honor, honesty, common sense, and balance. There is no place in ownership for consuming rage, narcissism, viciousness, or other childish behavior. Ownership is for grown-ups.

I'm sure there's more that could be said about panty gags, as undoubtedly there are fetishists who could wax poetic about the differences between silk, satin, and cotton panties as gags. More could be said about the subtleties behind humiliation play and panty gags, or about other devious ways to "flavor" her panties with her's or your own love juices. I leave those things to the true panty fetishists and the extreme panty gag aficionados.

I will leave you, my dear reader, with a panty gag video found on these interwebs, a classic damsel in distress bit of playacting, and then one parting thought.

"In the end, the only limits are safety, the limits of your submissive, and your own imagination."

Adieu!

Michael Samadhi

3/27/2012

Saturday, March 3, 2012

Drooling!!! (keeping her quiet pt. 7)

Slippery When Wet - Gags & Drooling

Welcome to an ongoing discussion of gags and gagging in the world of BDSM. Today, I'll be featuring an inevitable consequence of being gagged, as well as the fetish some have for this special aspect of keeping her quiet.

And, it should be said that today's post is a very slippery topic. It could even be said that it's discussion occurs on a slippery slope, as folks tend to either love or hate the fact that gags can cause uncontrollable drooling.

Other postings (so far) in this series include:

Please note that the title of the series is intended to be neither sexist nor chauvinistic, instead it's a reflection of my 30 years of experience exploring the world of BDSM as a dominant.

I'm a 48 year old male who tied up his girlfriend for the very first time on December 8, 1980. It's a date I'll never forget because while I was ravaging my captive, the radio announced that John Lennon had been shot.

My point isn't about John Lennon, nor is it about the strawberry blonde I was with that fateful morning. Instead, I'm simply saying, in my own roundabout way, that this series is written from my personal experience.

I write from the perspective of a primarily heterosexual male (I usually say heteroflexible these days as a nod to being pansexual) who's had a number of D/s relationships through the years with a few wonderful lades (and my ex wife.)

The subject matter and techniques discussed in this series are intended to be nearly universal in nature, and not dependent on any one particular sexual orientation. Please feel free to apply your own sexual preferences and orientations as needed, and remember as with all things in life, your mileage may vary . . .

Drool out the day
Drool out the night
I can't see no reason to put up a fight
I'm living for giving the devil his due
And I'm drooling, I'm drooling, I'm drooling for you
~ sincere apologies to Blue Oyster Cult for my perversion of their song Burning for You

Drooling, Gags, & BDSM

When a gag is strapped or tied into place, the obvious result for the submissive is the loss of the ability to communicate. But, both the physiology and psychology of gags are far more varied and subtle.

Gags can cause uncontrollable drooling. That simple fact is a significant turn-on for a good number of fetishists, dominants, and submissives alike.

From the submissive perspective, it would seem that individuals who are turned on by being forced to uncontrollably drool are excited by the total loss of control. Not only has their voice been stolen, but now they find themselves stripped of the ability to even control their own spit.

Of course, being covered in a pool of your own drool is probably more just than a little bit humiliating for most people. With that in mind, it's obvious then that uncontrollable drooling caused by a gag can also be a source of significant sexual humiliation for most submissives or slaves.

It's the opposite side of the coin, but very much the same sort of energy, that a dominant receives when they use a gag to force a submissive to drool uncontrollably. The obvious and visible loss of control is an exciting element for some dominants to create and observe.

I don't necessarily share the opinion, but some feel that gags themselves are humiliating. For dominants who buy into that philosophy, and are into using humiliation as a part of their play, drooling caused by a gag can be like sweet icing on the cake.

And while gags and drool may be the object of fetish like interest to some individuals, it should be remembered that to some folks, a long string of drool is simply a long string of drool, nothing special or exciting at all. On the furthest end of that spectrum would be those who find drool and spittle associated with gags to be absolutely gross.

With that in mind, it needs to be remembered that communication is vitally important when using gags in BDSM. That's probably even more true when playing games with uncontrollable drooling.

The use of gags needs to be negotiated in advance, safe signals need to be agreed upon, and discussion about associated issues like drooling are always a good idea. There really are people who have phobias about being gagged, so as a dominant it's essential that you talk first.

I don't want to hear real life stories about dominants who stuffed a gag in their submissive mouth and then explained her safe signal. That kind of thing is great for fantasy and book, but it's not appropriate in real life unless there are pre-negotiated agreements already in place. OK?

In terms of discussing specific gag styles and drooling, it's probably safe to say that ball gags and ring gags are both notorious for causing drooling "problems". Bit gags can cause drooling, but I also know that most designs allow enough tongue and mouth movement that some submissives will be able to swallow effectively while wearing one.

Quite obviously, cloth gags are usually the antithesis of drooling. they will usually absorb drool as fast as your slave's salivary glands can produce it. Tape gags in any variation will retard drooling, waterproof tape having the strongest effect.

The submissive's physical position also has a significant impact on the relationship between gags and drooling. Drooling's not likely to ever happen if she's laid on her back. And, if your submissive is laid on her side in a bed, you're not going to end up a pretty little glistening lake to evidence your girl's helplessness, instead you'll just get wet sheets

I don't really have any special drool stories to tell from past personal experience. My former wife and submissive, Blissful Torment, didn't mind being gagged at all, but she hated any kind of enforced drooling.

She'd manufacture ways to suck saliva to the back of her throat and find a way to swallow if at all humanly possible. While that kind of behavior is rather disappointing for a person who does enjoy this particular fetish to a certain extent, I can say with absolute certainly, it was the the least of her faults.

And finally, I'd like to ask you my dear reader - Do you have any of your own thoughts or experiences you'd like to share on the topic of gags and drooling?

Serafina and I would love to hear from you here, so please feel free to leave a comment.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Hand Gag (keeping her quiet pt. 6)

No Assembly Required - Hand Gags

Welcome again, my dear friends and readers, to another installment of keeping her quiet, an continuing multi-post series about gags in BDSM. Other postings in the series (so far) include:

Once again, I'd like to remind readers that the title of the series, Keeping Her Quiet, is only a reflection of my experience as a dominant, and not intended to be chauvinistic or sexist. I do not believe in stifling or silencing women in everyday life, so understand that this post is about BDSM and not the politics of gender.

The title of the series, and the tone of my posts reflect my personal experience, but the subject matter and techniques discussed are almost always universal in nature and not dependent on a particular sexual orientation. Please feel free to apply your own sexual preference and orientation as needed . . .

Thanks for reading, I sincerely hope you enjoy the article.

I know a cat named Way-Out Willie,
Got a cool little chick named Rocking Millie.
He can walk and stroll and Susie Q
And do that crazy hand gag, too.
Hand gag, hand gag, do that crazy hand gag . . .
~~ my apologies to Johnny Otis, Eric Clapton, the Grateful Dead, George Thorogood, and musicians everywhere who have performed the original "Willie and the Hand Jive", the song who's lyrics I've taken liberties with today . . .

Hand Gags & BDSM

Today we're talking today about the classic hand gag, detailing it's use in BDSM scenes and play. You've seen this gag at the motion pictures, it's a classic in detective, horror, suspense, and thriller style movies.

It's the scene where the villain comes up from behind our victim. Capturing her with one arm, he clamps his free hand firmly over the heroine's mouth. By doing so, he effectively silences any attempt she might make to call for help.

It should be said that the hand gag is not quite as effective in real life as it appears to be in the movies. There are actually few things as effective as the movies might portray when it comes to totally silencing a struggling lady, especially one who's truly intent on making noise.

With that minor limitation in mind, I do believe the hand gag is an absolute classic. And, it does offer some unique advantages all it's own.

The first time I used a hand gag during sex, I wasn't even overtly aware of it's BDSM overtones. It was during my first marriage, I was 18 years old, and I was just discovering the joys of being a newlywed.

My wife, Charlie, and I were entertaining a friend of mine. She and I stepped into the kitchen together to make some mixed drinks. Suddenly we were struck, as newlyweds often are, with the overpowering urge to screw, right then and there, on the kitchen floor.

Moments later, with our pants down around our ankles, we were rutting like animals in the kitchen of our small three room apartment. We were separated from my friend by a single empty room, and Charlie was a very passionate woman. I should say right now that none of our differences ever came from the bedroom.

Charlie was always pretty freely vocal in expressing her lust for lovemaking. But, as she started with her usual coos and moans, my friend's close proximity was forgotten.

Instinctively I clamped my hand down over Charlie's mouth to quiet her sounds of passion. When she reached for me, I thought it was to push my arm away. To my surprise, she instead pulled my hand down more strongly.

The tighter Charlie pressed my hand over her mouth, the tighter her internal embrace became. Within moments, she was squirming and shaking in orgasm underneath me. As I pushed my hand down tighter still, seeing her face turn a little red, as I was now temporary blocking her breath, I came too.

My orgasm was overpowering. I came with extreme urgency and surprising passion for a guy who was getting a little raw from frequent sex. I didn't even realize it at the time, but I'd just had my first intimate experience with a hand gag.

Let me tell you, it was good! There's something especially powerful that is stirred in me when I clamp my hand over a woman's mouth to act as a gag. This isn't a gag that you'll need to hunt for or dig out of the toybag. Like I said in the name for this piece, no assembly required.

I think that is one of the things that makes a hand gag so powerful - it's absolute immediacy. Hand gags are the gag of here and now. And that makes hand gags a very personal thing.

When I clamp a hand gag over Serafina's mouth, I can feel her lips, I can feel her breath. And, in return, she can feel the strength of my hand, and the heat of my palm, as I clamp it ever so tightly over her mouth.

As I stated at the start of this post, the actual usefulness of this gag will never match what the movies might lead you to believe. The effectiveness of this gag does vary quite a bit depending on the amount of pressure applied, as well as the relative size of the dominant's hand compared to the submissive's face and mouth.

I should also add that this isn't the ideal gag for biters. If the submissive I'm considering hand gagging is one who loves to really sink her teeth into a situation, my fingers and palm won't likely be pressed up over her mouth.

No offense, but I'm not the masochist!