Spiritual BDSM: Fetish Gags (keeping her quiet pt. 10)

Quixotic Quieters

"How delicious are these implements of torture."
~ Marquis de Sade

The imagination is the spur of delights … all depends upon it, it is the mainspring of everything; now, is it not by means of the imagination one knows joy? Is it not of the imagination that the sharpest pleasures arise?
~ Marquis de Sade

Keeping Her Quiet (pt. 10) - Fetish Gags

Welcome to yet another installment in an ongoing series of posts about gags and gagging in BDSM. Other postings in this series (so far) include:

Yet again, I'd like to take a moment to remind my readers that the series title is not intended to be sexist or chauvinistic. Instead, it's a simple reflection of my 30 years of experience exploring the world of BDSM as a heterosexual dominant.

You are who you are, and I am who I am, and that is a beautiful thing. It is marvelous that we all aren't the same in our personal wants, needs, and desires. Instead of being offended or put-off by any references I make to sexual orientations that may be different from your own, I simply ask that you change a pronoun (or two) in your mind to bring my writing into line with your own orientation and/or world view.

Fetish & Gags
Human nature being what it is, it should come as no great surprise to learn that somebody, somewhere on God's green earth, is going to have an interesting and unusual attraction to an object most of us do not sexualize.

And, you must also know that if any object that is the subject of an individual's fetishistic attraction and will also fit inside, around, or over a person's mouth, then it's probably also been used as a gag. In that way, this post is a tribute to the inventive nature of the human mind, and our unending ability to sexualize almost anything given the right circumstance and motivation.

The imagination truly is the spur of all delights!

I have a huge fetish for shoes and clothes and make-up.
~ Hilary Duff

Shoe Gag

Perhaps the most common example of a fetish that comes to mind for most folks would be foot fetishists, people who have a stronger than normal attraction to feet. Serafina and I had a good friend, Thomas, who was a true foot fetishist.

It's actually a relatively common fetish and probably worthy of it's own posting. Suffice it to say there are a great number of individuals like Thomas, and an equally great number of body parts and objects that can be fetishized.

Since foot and shoe fetishes are fairly common, it should come as no great surprise that one of the fetish gags being featured in this post is a shoe gag.

Shoe gags are beyond my personal experience, but I've certainly heard of them and read of their use in stories. I suppose if I ever had a "shoe slut" in my service, it would be worthy of consideration.

As they are often pictured, shoe gags aren't one of the world's most practical forms of gagging a girl. Any shoe gag I've ever seen looks unwieldy and ungainly, at least to my eyes.

But what I see or envision is not the same as what a true shoe aficionado would perceive. The point for them is simple, there a shoe is being held in their mouth with a strap.

The object of their love and desire is in enforced proximity. The shoe becomes a part of their personal intimate environment. When a shoe gag is placed upon them, the subject can't escape it's vision, it's feel, it's scent, or even it's taste.

What could be better for an individual who loves shoes, than to be overwhelmed by one in such a fashion?

The Stockroom's Ballz ™

Here's an example of what I was referring to in saying this post is a tribute to human inventiveness . . . What's more inventive than a device that holds your nut sack in a slave's mouth?

OK, so maybe this isn't an invention that's going to change the world. But it does have a pending patent application, not to mention a trademarked name, to go with all it's awards and advertising hyperbole,

Ballz Gag ™
2011 AVN Award winner for Best Fetish Product!
Patent Pending

Put your submissive in their place – and KEEP THEM THERE!

That’s the idea behind the Ballz Gag™, the new and original ball gag brought to you exclusively by The Stockroom, where we aim to take your bondage and cbt experiences to new heights. As unique as it is versatile, this supple leather device puts the “balls” in ball gag, specially crafted to keep you and your partner as close as possible.

The Ballz Gag™ is a very unique collaboration of a gag and a ball stretcher that forces your partner to pleasure you until you release them. One high quality leather strap slips around the back of your sub’s head and another around your sack just above your balls, positioning your balls in their mouth. Don’t think that you are in complete control though! Your partner may be the one with a pair of balls strapped to their face but if they decide to move, you have no choice but to follow, lest you want to lose your jewels. This particular dynamic can lead to an interesting interchange of dom and sub roles.

I told that neither Don Draper nor Peggy Olsen were involved in the production of that advertising copy, nor did they sit on AVN's awards panel. In fact, I'm pretty sure no one located even remotely close Madison Avenue could say, "Puts the “balls” in ball gag" with anything resembling a straight face.

Obviously then, it's a good thing we've got folks on L.A.'s Sunset Boulevard, as well as the wizards of San Francisco's Market Street, to pick up that slack.

Build a better mousetrap and the world will beat a path to your door.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

"I prefer tongue-tied knowledge to ignorant loquacity.” ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero

Getting All Tongue Tied

When objects like a clothespin or mousetrap are placed on a submissive's tongue, it effectively serves many of the same purposes as a gag. I'll let you, my dear reader, decide if that actually makes this nifty little trick a gag, or not. In the end, where we might decide to categorize an activity isn't of great importance, it's just another form of human sexual expression.

The tongue is largely composed of muscle, as such it's fair game for some BDSM style play with clips and clamps. Tongues can be exquisitely sensitive, as you probably know from biting your tongue as some point in your life, there are plenty of nerves that help us to sense our way around our mouth, to prevent tongue biting from becoming a common activity. There are also taste buds and some significant blood vessels (on the underside) so please use reason and caution.

When putting anything into Serafina's mouth, or on her tongue, I really prefer objects that can easily be cleaned and sterilized. That actually makes tools like mousetraps and wooden clothespins more than a little bit problematic.

I guess my squeamishness regarding wooden impliments and their ability to hold bacteria goes back to my youth, when I was training to be a Chef. I'm not keen on putting worn street shoes into anyone's mouth either, for that matter, but I'm not going to tell anyone what level of safety they need to apply.

I always counsel to use common sense and a reasonable level of caution with all your life's activities, whether they be BDSM related or not. As my father always used to tell me - let your conscience be your guide.

“A good memory and a tongue tied in the middle is a combination which gives immortality to conversation”
~ Mark Twain

“Art made tongue-tied by authority.”
~ William Shakespeare

It's my personal perspective that we all have fetishes of one sort or another, they are simply expressed in a mild form. We call them desires, or preferences, but essentially they are all the same thing, and to my train of thought that makes the terms effectively interchangeable.

If you prefer big chested (or conversely smaller chested) ladies, it is my perspective that you have a mild fetish based on breast size. If the only way you can get off is in the presence of a individual with a specific breast size, then it's a strong fetish indeed.

Substitute the word "desire" for the word "fetish" in the proceeding paragraph and the meanings don't really change. I guess it means that when everything is all said and done, any gag could be considered a "fetish gag" if your particular fetish happens to be gags.

Spiritual BDSM

Monday, April 9, 2012

Fetish Gags (keeping her quiet pt. 10)

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