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| It reminds me of "The Man in the Iron Mask" - steel sensory deprivation spheres are an absolutely medieval fetish. |
This is a hard question to answer, because, as I embrace my own kinky nature, and I immerse myself in a BDSM lifestyle, I'm finding that everything about me is pretty kinky and perverted. Some people talk about the energy they get from a concert, I was on a contact high for three days after attending IML2012. I'm going to say the best answer is my intellect. I was once a member of MENSA, so my intellect is probably my strongest personal attribute, and I take a thoughtful approach to BDSM. Although others arrived at the same doorstep independently, the path that led me to combine Tantra and BDSM was a very individual journey, led by my intellect.
2. Do you have any fetishes? If so, what are they?
It's not so much any one individual element that trips my triggers, the entire world of BDSM is my fetish. I'm even fascinated by BDSM activities like water bondage, abduction fantasies, and total sensory deprivation that I'll probably never try with Serafina. So many variations, and only one life to live them all . . .
3. Have you ever been spanked? Did you enjoy it? Tell us more…
Yes, I've been spanked. Back in the 1990's, Blissful Torment (my ex-wife) our girlfriend Cherub (who I've referred to on a number of occasions) and myself played BDSM games with every one of us playing the role of a switch. In other words, the two individuals being co-dominants and the person acting as their submissive subject was a rotating cast, we all took our turns acting as dominant or submissive. Without a doubt, those rate with my absolute best three-way memories, especially times when Cherub and I co dominated Ms Torment. I suppose I enjoyed being spanked ok, but it wasn't as exciting as being on the other end of the experience. I'm the sort of person who believes it's better to give than receive!
4. Have you been tied up, or tied someone else up? Did you use rope or restraints?
This is like asking if the Pope wears a pointy hat . . . The first girl I tied up was probably about age 9, using cotton clothesline, in a tent in my parent's back yard. It wasn't overtly sexual, obviously, but I sure did enjoy it! The first time I tied up a girl for sex was age 17. It was purely consensual, in fact it was her fantasy to lose her virginity that way . . . Yes, she really was a virgin going into the experience. And yes, I used cotton clothesline again at age 17.
5. Would you classify yourself as more dominant, submissive, a switch or entirely vanilla?
I'm a dominant, pure and simple. For the last decade or so I've known that in work settings I have what's known as a "command presence", I'm a natural leader in that sense. That part of my nature carries over to the sexual realm as well, obviously . . .
6. What’s the kinkiest thing you’ve ever done?
Influenced by Anne Rice's Claiming of Sleeping Beauty trilogy, my ex-wife Blissful Torment and I experimented with spreading tuna juices and peanut butter between her legs to be licked off by the family dog. When the dog finished slurping off a nice thick coating of Skippy, Ms Torment turned to me red faced and started to scream. At least that was my first perception of her reaction, then I realized she had been left on the very edge of an orgasm, and she was actually demanding more peanut butter . . . Now!
7. Have you been to a BDSM club? What was it like? If not, would you ever go to one?
Ya know, I've never been to one. I used to go to a leather store in Chicago that had a public dungeon in the basement and a private leather bar attached to the side, but I never managed to go shopping there when the dungeon was open. I am planning to visit Galleria Domain 2 in Chicago sometime in the next year, and tell all about it here!
8. What’s your favourite fetish item or implement?
It's all too predictable, but the ONLY answer I can offer is my DungeonBed!
9. Favourite kinky clothing material?
Leather. Is there really anything else?
BTW - Serafina has a PVC Catsuit, among other fetish clothing I've purchased for her, so I'm not really as "exclusive" in my relationship with leather as my answer might appear.
10. Thigh boots – love ‘em or hate ‘em?
What's not to love? I know I've purchased at least one pair of thigh high boots for Serafina, the pair that comes to mind has kneepads!
11. If you’re kinky, who knows about it? Do you tell people or is it a closely guarded secret?
If it was a closely guarded secret I wouldn't have SpiritualBDSM.com as my blog address . . . On the other hand, I don't feel a great need to push knowledge of my alternative sexuality onto others who I know are vanilla, I don't have a BDSM flag flying in front of my house or anything. but, at the end of the day, the people who are my true friends know me for who I am, and that's good enough for me!
12. What are your personal limits?
No children, nor anyone close to 21 years of age.
I cringe and shudder at videos where spikes or nails are driven thru anyone's flesh, and I don't think I could be a part of scenes involving cuttings or blood sport.
While I did admit to once having played in a scene involving the family pet, that's not a necessarily proud moment of my life, and it's my current belief that animals can't provide informed consent, and therefore are beyond my personal limits.
13. What’s your safeword and why did you choose that one?
Serafina uses the term "Mercy" to indicate that I'm approaching her ability to endure a particular activity. It's easy to remember, it fits into a scene well, alerting me to a problem or difficulty, without necessarily having to end the fun. We've never had a safeword to completely end a scene, as we live our lives as Master/slave, and I believe it's my responsibility as a good Master to avoid putting my slave into situations where she'd fail. Not every dominant would agree with my style, but I don't "break" or "destroy" my possessions, especially my most cherished.
14. Which fetishes do you just really not get?
(Said with a silly grin) I'm not sure I understand the question . . . I guess for me, it's an intellectual endeavor to "get" them all, even if I don't personally share that interest. That's, to my mind, an important element in being sex positive.
Bonus: Complete this sentence: To me, Fetish, Kink and BDSM means
I feel a little bit like Col. Kilgore in a BDSM styled remake of Apocolypse Now when I say . . .
"To me, Fetish, Kink and BDSM means everything. Do you smell that smell? That combination of leather and lube and PVC and raunchy sex? Son, that's the smell of victory."
Good answer to #11. Though we're not particularly into BDSM, your answer mirrors our own thoughts about our sex life. We're not ashamed of it, and we tend to be pretty open with certain friends; however, we realize that many - or most - of the people we know would rather not be privy to such details.
ReplyDeleteAs far as the dog's concerned, you didn't hurt it in the slightest. You gave it a treat. While it screams bestiality at first, if we weren't fearmongered to death by sex haters our whole lives, it would be slightly kinky at best. I bet the cooch that had the peanut butter on it was a lot cleaner than the floor where the dog treats usually get thrown.
ReplyDeleteHad you used the other end of the dog, that's a whole different story...