Less than a month ago I told readers here at the Spritual BDSM blog that BDSM had made the Yale Daily News. Now, it's time to report that BDSM has also made the news in the storied halls of Harvard.
Here's how the February 29, 2012 story from the Harvard Crimson begins:
Sarah likes it when her hands are tied to the bedpost and a bar is secured between her knees, spreading them apart. During sex, her boyfriend dominates her roped body as she happily calls him “sir” and “master.” She asks her boyfriend to objectify her and call her derogatory terms.Wow, now that's (mostly) my kind of journalism!
For Sarah, whose name has been changed to protect her privacy, the pain from the ropes is not what turns her on. Sarah is kinky, which for her means enjoying losing control of the situation, and even control over her own body.
Within the kink community, Sarah identifies as a “sub,” short for submissive, and she thinks it’s hot when her body’s movements are in someone else’s hands. She says having kinky sex allows her to escape “from the pressures of having to be this Madonna-whore thing, where I’m supposed to know what I’m doing but I’m also not supposed to want to do any of it.”
The bit about how "the pain from the ropes is not what turns her on" is perhaps a little over the top, as I don't believe being skillfully bound is inherently painful, but I suppose I can let that glaring inaccuracy slide . . .
The article is incredibly open about student's sexuality, as another quote about Sarah will reveal:\
At the time of the interview Sarah had come back from having sex with her boyfriend in Widener. For her, having sex outside the bedroom, as well as the thrill of potentially being caught made the experience kinky.It's good to know that the future leaders of our country understand games of power in and out of the bedroom. I feel a little bit better about our country's future right now . . . seriously!
She says that having kinky sex increased her confidence because it allowed her to be comfortable owning and articulating her needs and desires.
“There’s also the very straightforward confidence you get from being treated like someone’s sex toy,” she adds. “Being able to turn someone else on in a very primal and objective sense...feels great.”
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