slave assignment 1/7/2012

I'd like to start today with a recap of Serafina's progress for our readers.

Serafina did submit to an oral exam on the subject of the Upper Floor's House Doctrine.  Her working knowledge of the document was more than satisfactory.  My slave/wife is an intelligent lady, so I do expect her to be able to learn the contents of documents and similar studies relatively well.  

She's more prone to struggling with physical aspect of her training, remembering to keep knees apart when a spanking gets rough, etc.  Today's assignment will begin to better address those issues with Serafina's body and positional awareness.  

At the time of her last examination, we also began to discuss specifics of how some written protocols might be adapted and adopted here in our home.

From the beginning of Serafina's submission, she's been instructed in the way I wish to be served as her Master, but we've never had written rules or contracts.  I intend to adopt more formalized approach to her service in the future, so it's a natural evolution for written contract and protocols to now be made.  I'll even be having Serafina's signature on the contract notarized, but that's still in the future.

As I said, today's assignment will focus on the physical.  There is one aspect of service at the Upper Floor that I have found to be directly useful and translatable into Serafina's service, and that will be the topic of today's assignment - position training.

My dearest Serafina, my darling slave/wife,

To say I'm impressed with the progress you've made in the last month would be an understatement.  Your growth as a slave has been dramatic.  I cherish you more each day, my beloved.  Know that your submission is perhaps the greatest gift I shall ever receive!

As we discussed upon the occasion of your last examination, you will now commence with a new program of training.  While your will to serve, your hunger and desire to please, are all outstanding, there is still much work to do.

It is time to better enforce that as slave, when Master so desires, your own body is not your's to command.  Just as you have been trained not to orgasm without first obtaining my permission, you will now learn that for floggings and other formal service, your entire body is to be awaiting my will, my desire, and nothing more.  

I know you understand this in your mind, but there are times where your body betrays that understanding.  So, position training is the obvious direction for you to continue to grow in service to your Master, the next skill to learn as a slave.

Revisiting the Upper Floor's Doctorine, I present to you the outline of your next lesson:

Standard Service Positions of the House
The novice typically begins learning these positions by being put into bondage, tied off to a point over head for safety, and made to hold balance - possibly on a block.  Apply the whip, crop, cane or other implement to test for movement, train endurance and discipline.  This is an excellent method of training pain processing and self control.
Attention
Standing straight, feet straight ahead and shoulder width apart.
Shoulders back, slight arch to the back, pressing out the chest.
Chin is up and head straight.
Eye-line is downward at 45 degrees with no movement or distraction.
The arms are folded tightly at the small of the back pushing the chest out slightly.
Forearms are parallel to the floor, fingers lightly clutch opposite arms just above the elbows.
This is a strict position and should be drilled for endurance and composure under duress.
This is the standard position a trainee assumes when being spoken to, awaiting instruction, or on completing a task.
Kneel
On knees, not resting on haunches, but raised up high with pelvis thrust slightly forward to offer the genitals.
Thighs are spread, chin up, eyes downward at 45 degrees, back arched, chest out.
Variations:
Head slightly back, mouth open, tongue slightly extended in preparation for oral service.
The subject may be ordered to masturbate themselves while in position.
Position 3 (All Fours)
Like a show dog, the subject is displayed on hands and knees.
Subject is open for manipulation, feeling up, fucking, for use as furniture, or for a position of punishment.
The chin is up, head straight and eyes downward at 45 degrees.
Genitals are free and offered from the rear.
Good for showing off the slave, face fucking, or for general inspection.
Postition 3 Variation
Presents the ass doggie style for fucking or for punishment.
From a position on all fours, the chest is lowered to press onto the floor.
The arms are folded at the small of the back, face turned to the left, cheek to the floor.
Thighs are wide, back is arched hard, pressing the ass up and out.
A slight variation puts the forehead to the floor, eyes drilling straight down into the floor.
Ideal or punishment and corrections to the ass and thighs.
Squat
Primarily a stress position, often used for training in endurance or for humiliating.
The feet are shoulder width apart, legs bent at the knees to lower the hips close to the floor.
Arms are folded behind the back as when at attention.
Chin is up, head straight, eyes downward at 45 degrees.
Do not allow the subject to actually sit.
Variations:
To increase stress, put the subjects back against a wall and order the thighs to be held parallel to the floor.
Use extreme caution when adding bondage as many people cannot balance themselves in a squat and may fall.
Head slightly back, mouth open, tongue slightly extended in preparation for oral service.
The subject may be ordered to masturbate themselves while in position.

And also:

2.2 Basic Positions
1. Kneeling with legs spread wide exposing her pussy. Her ass is sitting on her feet and her hands are resting on her knees, palms up. Eyes should always be forward.
2. Kneeling with her ass in the air and legs spread. Head and chest is to the floor and hands stretched out above her head. Hand are together and palms are to the floor. This shows the utmost respect. Requests by slaves may be made from this position.
3. On all fours with legs and hands spread, head up, eyes forward, back arched to display ass.
4. Kneeling on heels, hands on floor behind butt with fingers pointed outward and together, pelvis presented.
5. Kneeling like position 1, but with hands behind the neck with fingers interlocked. Elbows far back forcing breast out.
6. Kneeling like position 1, but now arms are together in front and forearms being held in front of the face and hands above of the face. Hands are just above the top of head, together and palms up.
7. On floor on stomach, face down with head turned to left, crosses her wrists behind her back, and crosses her ankles.
8. Face down on the floor with legs together, toes pointed, and arms extended out at a 90 degree angle from the body. (If space does not allow then use compact version with arms bent at elbows and hands next to face) This is the apology position.
9. Standing, legs spread, arms above head, wrists crossed. Head is back and turned to the left.
10. Standing on tip toes with legs spread and wrists boxed behind back.
11. On the floor on back, legs spread wide, arms boxed behind back.
12. Kneeling, bends body backwards putting head to floor, place hands next to head, and push up to a back bend.

This list will become the initial basis for your study.

At my discretion, as your training progresses, I will add, alter, or replace positions from this list based upon my personal desires, as well as consideration of your physical limitations.

I will assist by instructing you in these positions, and correcting you as we practice together.  Until you have perfected and memorized them to your Master's satisfaction, we will have a regular drills as a routine before every flogging.  

When I am satisfied with your ability to present these positions, you will be photographed in each position with the intent that you will then create a position training tutorial for our SpiritualBDSM.com readers.

With love, desire, and mastery,

Michael

1/7/2012

Accepting Your Body but Making Changes

There is a great move amongst the BDSM community for acceptance for all types of sexual desires, be it straight, gay, lesbian, masochistic, sadistic, gentle, Tantric, and many others diversions and interests.  In our circle, we do applaud acceptance.  And we do accept what other people do is OK, even if it does not fit us, it is what it is, and it is out there. 

In general, people have also taken acceptance a step further to embrace people shapes and weight differences.  At the Samadhi Household we endorse that kind of acceptance, although with a caveat.

We are aging. . . and not always with dignity!  Our libido and desire is running strong, but as our bodies are aging we are more and more aware that we would like a lot more time to enjoy our play activities without issues caused by our own lack of due care and attention to bad habits causing related health issues.   One of the primary issues are diet and exercise.

Neither of us is anywhere near the size we want to be.  In life it is far too easy to allow things to slide.  Some call it the Dunlop feature.   Where the chest "dunlop" over and now sits in the middle- we call the spare tire!!    Humor aside it is really a critical situation.  We are frequent flyers to the Dr.OZ show; and often we do not like what we are hearing, because it hits us where we need to address change. 

We are both overweight, and have been working to lose the excess for some time.  Master has lost over 50 lbs and is working on not only keeping it off, but losing even more, and building up stamina through strength-building exercise, and building a strong and robust immune system as well.

We have long acknowledged that our bodies are a Spiritual Temple, but like most others we have neglected,  or even worse, failed to honor them.  Now at every opportunity we are becoming more mindful of looking after and reverencing the time we have left to us and hope and work towards redeeming whatever we can. 

No matter what you believe in, or practice, whether it be New Age, Tantra, Buddhism, Christian, Hinduism, or some mixture of many like we do, or none at all;  It behooves us to be aware of and make correct changes in the way we care for and especially feed our bodies.  America's biggest current health problem is obesity.  It is THE factor for diabetes, cancer, heart problems, and many other associated illnesses.  Obesity is often at the root of emotional and psychological problems as well.

We fully embrace acceptance!  And, we fully embrace responsibility and self-control.  As we develop our strategy we will likely be sharing some of those.  (for example we shared that to start each day with breakfast that is healthy, nutritious, and even delicious!)  And we look at our past and current habits and make better choices, we are giving ourselves what we deserve.  And if we truly value our relationships, why rob them of years and health and pleasure simply because we choose to satisfy all our appetites now without regard to whether or not our actions are harmful to our health and well-being.

do you need a drink?

I gave Serafina a nice flogging last night.

Although we started late, and the whole thing may only have lasted an hour and a half, it was an incredible night.  While some people may not enjoy the feel of a cat or flogger striking them, Serafina get's very excited by being spanked and flogged.  

My collection of different floggers, slappers, and spankers is always growing.  Right now the collection is stored in a pair of Flogger Trunks from For Your Nymphomation (42" high x 8" wide x 8" deep) - but both of those cases are pretty well filled to overflowing, so a third may be needed very soon.

My favorite moment usually comes near the end of a session, when all the various action and attention has brought my darling Serafina to an unbridled frenzy of desire.  After using a variety of different floggers, each with it's own unique touch, the sum total of the sensations can start to become overwhelming.  Serafina reaches a point where she wants the flogging to continue forever, yet she is getting tender enough that she also begins to dread the next blow.  

It's a sight to behold!

By that time her brain and body are being flooded by a variety of messages and chemicals.  At the same time that her body is feeling the full effect of endorphins produced as a reaction to the flogging, I'm also bringing her desires to a peak.  Often her body will start quivering, starting in her thighs and legs, but ultimately spreading over her entire being.  

This is also when Serafina's prone to begin begging for something . . . anything . . .  to satisfy the building desire.

Last night she crawled backwards across the length of our bed on her hand and knees, backside high in the air, mewing and moaning and begging just to feel the pressure of my thumb against her clit.  My slut was desperate enough last night that she literally started humping my thumb, grinding her cunt and clit against it like a woman possessed.  She asked permission to orgasm within moments, but I had her continue the lewd display for a few minutes before granting permission.

It was fucking hot!  

Yet, it wasn't my favorite part of last night's play.  It was a lighter moment that wasn't planned, totally spontaneous . . . 

After feeling only a couple of my floggers on her naked flesh, Serafina was thirsty and asked for a drink of water, which I allowed.  After she swallowed a gulp, there on her knees before me, she looked up at me, offering a fresh bottle of water she had placed by the bed, and said, "Master you must be thirsty too, may I offer you a drink?"

My reply was simple - "No darling, the sight of you on your knees, ass high in the air, is more than enough for me . . . It's making my mouth water!"

I don't know about you, but to me, moments like that are absolutely priceless!

Every morning begins with a proper brew of tea

Not a morning goes by when I do not long for that first sip of hot sweet black English tea.  Even as a young girl very fine tea was available at anytime, and my mom's favorite was an orange pekoe made by Salada.  Sadly I haven't found it in stores for over 30 years now and have had to settle for RED Rose or Tetly teas.  Even those are more obscure as you won't walk into a Wall-mart to pick it off the shelf, but it cam be found in higher end stores like Jewel Osco, or HyVee.

Morning tea goes back fewer years because for many years coffee reigned supreme.  In fact I had the coffee pot on a timer so that it was set the night before to offer a steaming cup of the java as soon as I dragged myself out of bed.  It woke me up and collected my sanity.  I mean, how could anyone make it through a day without coffee?

A sample of RED Rose Figures

What I didn't know was that for many years I had been accumulating the oils from the coffee-bean in my liver and had gone into toxicity, so the order was that I not drink coffee. . ugg!  So anyway, tea has become my routine, even if there is no automation . . yet!

I remember way back when I was a preschooler, my Grandmother often gave us little china cups, saucers, creamers, sugar-bowl and figurines of all kinds as keepsakes and gifts.  They came from bags of oatmeal, or sugar, and from RED Rose Tea Boxes.  by the time I was a teen Grandma has passed, but I had this collection of miniature figurines that I later began using for Faberge Egg Crafting and in dioramas.

Now I had not found any RED Rose tea in the USA before this. . (BTW I am Canadian bred and born) . . so imagine my surprise when one day I had to make a purchase of tea and saw a RED Rose tea box!!  I was hesitant to pick it up, thinking it couldn't be the real thing.  It looked like it,  It smelled like it. . tea has to smell a certain way- you know. . so I took it along with the Tetly I had by now grown accustomed to.

Imagine my surprise to find out that RED Rose had and was continuing to include the little collectibles with their product!  I was so delighted I felt like a little kid again waiting expectantly for the little treasures Grandmother loved to bestow upon her grandchildren.  I remember her fondly.

Today many of those years ago figurines fetch a fair price on E-Bay and such but I will be putting all of mine on display inside an egg!

What a delight!! Happy New Year Everyone! . . and may we all have the greatest year, by remembering the simple things that give us joy.

"A nice start to a thoughtful and interesting blog!"

Greetings from Michael and Serafina Samadhi here in the heartland of the Americas, where the corn grows tall, and, like the leaves, the flogger tails fall.

We simply wanted to take a moment today to acknowledge something that has become a wonderful Christmas and New Year's gift for my lovely slave/wife and myself.  Just before Christmas, the SpiritualBDSM.com blog you are currently reading got a wonderful review over at Jane's Guide.

Whoot! Whoot!!

Here are a couple excerpts from the review of SpiritualBDSM.com by Jane's Guide:

It is still relatively young, but I felt that the level of conversation and original pictures really warranted a review. The couple enjoys Tantra and BDSM, and they definitely communicate about their lives in a very real (and sometimes quite raw and vulnerable) way. They have BDSM and kink articles about things like Darlex and Hepatitis. Michael shares assignments that he has written for his partner. The review section is a breath of fresh air, since it deals with things like collars and EMT scissors. 

And:

Here is a sample of the sort of thing you'll read from Michael: "If a slave is somebody who has been totally devalued, I'd not want to command them, I'd want to shelter and protect them until they felt valued and human. My style of domination isn't depersonalizing, in fact quite the opposite, it's expressed by continually pushing for growth, empowerment, and enlightenment within the rituals and devotions of submission." I don't know about you, but I find that pretty darn hot. A nice start to a thoughtful and interesting blog! - Vamp

Wow!  We do appreciate the kind words!

We ended up quoting the majority of Vamp's review here, not because we wanted to violate Copyright, but simply because we are so proud to have such nice things said about our efforts here.  

It's very much an honor for a site as new as ours to be reviewed, we feel very privileged.  We have been experiencing a good increase in the number of visitors from the link provided with that review, which is always flattering.  Authors live to be read!

With that in mind, we simply wanted to stop for a moment, to give a wave and a shout.  We try to do our best to provide our virtual guests with a little taste of Midwestern hospitality, but it's not the easiest thing to do virtually.

If we had been privileged enough to enjoy your company in our home, we'd offer food, drink, perhaps a smoke if appropriate (no commercial carcinogenic tobacco please - but we hope to grow a little organic tobacco of our own in 2012 as well as other (legal) traditional Native American smoking herbs.)

I won't share my slave/wife's sexual services, I'm not that kind of host.  But, I'll offer most anything in my power short of that.  Serafina and I have been monogamous since the break-up of our initial triad in 2006, but in our home she's not allowed to be shy or coy about serving me in front of guests.

So, as a guest in my home you'd be welcome to enjoy the sights, thoughts, and company of a 24/7 lifestyle Master/slave couple.  Perhaps we might even share a more intimate look into Serafina's service oriented slavery, a peek into our bedroom, or dungeon.  If you ask real nice, and appear sincere, we wouldn't even be totally adverse to letting you feel the bite of a riding crop, cat, flogger, or perhaps even sting of a single-tail whipsickle, assuming the proper chemistry was there.

As far as humanly possible, that is the atmosphere we try to create here at SpiritualBDSM.com.  One just like you'd find in our home.  Sometimes it's a little cloudy with a haze of incense, but we always aspire to be honest, open, and sharing with our experiences and knowledge.

So, we'd like to say from both of our hearts, "Thank you!" to all our readers, both new and old.  I'm fond of telling Serafina that we are just getting started exploring her submission, that everything builds each day to a final greater whole.

I'd like to say the same thing to our readers about this blog too.  Welcome aboard, we are just getting started.  Every successive day, and each new posting, will build towards a greater whole in the BDSM information and resources we provide, as well as the very personal look we give into the lives of a 24/7 Master/slave relationship.

Yes indeed . . . We are just getting started!

PS - In case you aren't familiar with Jane's Guide, it's a site devoted to (primarily) providing reviews of adult websites from all across the Internet.  We were reviewed by Vamp, one of Jane's group of 4 primary reviewers; Jane, Vamp, Peter, and Sara.

caught Master's eye . . .

I want to love you and treat you right,
I want to love you every day and every night,
We'll be together with a roof right over our heads . . . 
    -- Bob Marley - Is This Love?

There's little or no doubt about it, I'm in love again.  I think it was love at first sight.

Maybe it's just an advanced case of lust that has bitten me, some kind of really strong and overwhealing desire.  But I really do think it's love.

 Either that, or I'm in danger of a full blown obsession developing.  It's really that bad.

Please don't tell her first, because I'm not talking about Serafina, either.

Don't get me wrong, I love my darling Serafina, cherish her more and more each day.  But this crush I've developed is different.

How do you tell your slave/wife such a thing?  How will she react?

How do I explain that it's a long distance thing.  I mean I can't even be 100% sure it's love over the Internet.  I can't be sure because I've only seen pictures of this beauty.  But, I'm pretty sure it's more than just lust teetering on obsession, this is the real deal.

I'm sure I want to spend the rest of my life with this wonderfully built honey, like the song says, every day and every night.

I want Serafina to understand, this doesn't need to take anything at all away from "us" as a couple, in fact, I think my new love can even enhance our relationship.  I just need to convince my slave/wife to go into all of this with an open mind.

Bringing her home is going to turn the household upside down, but I know that's what I want to do . . . What I have to do. I already know I really can't live without this honey.

What do you think readers?  Before I pay the movers, do you think I should ask if Serafina if I'm going to break a hard limit?

I mean it's not every slave'wife who's OK with Master spending $3500 on a bed.

That's right, my obsession is a bed!

For those of you who enjoy, or even cherish, the relationship Serafina and I share, rest assured so do I!  No woman, no other individual on this planet, could ever replace her in my heart.  And neither could a bed.  Sharing this bed with Serafina is at the center of my desire to bring it into our home.

Isn't it beautiful?

Dore Alley Bed by DungeonBeds.com

And, in case you hadn't noticed, it's an incredibly kinky bed!  It's called the The Dore Alley Bed.

I've been shopping for "dungeon" furniture of late, inspired by the freedom we have in decorating our home.  Serafina's children are grown and live thousands of mile away, and we really don't ever entertain in our home, being inconveniently located in comparrison to my business partners.

Over the next few years, I'm planning to make our humble abode a veritable fetish wonderland.  It's my current thinking that this bed will be at the very center of my devious designs.

The bed is sold by both Mr S Leather and The Stockroom, but it's manufactured by Dungeon Beds.  When I take the plunge to purchase one, I'm planning to buy directly from the manufacturer, as they offer some really nice options.

optional Top Rail Restraints 

optional Votive Holders

Looking at the Dungeon Beds site, you may notice the bed's retail price is $2,895.  But with all the options I'm interested in, the price will add up to $3,595, not a trifling sum of money for anyone, let alone individuals like Serafina and myself who are of relatively modest means.

But I'm also very aware that we only live once.  The saddest people I meet are always people who saved for a future that never came, and that's a fate I plan to avoid.

I see this bed as a future centerpiece for our BDSM play sessions.  From a Tantric perspective, it will become our "Sacred Space."   It will become the altar where we go to worship the Divine God and Goddess within us both.

And the bondage potential is just mind-blowing.  With all the built in restraint points, as well as the additional Top Rail Restraints option I'm planning to add, there's really no limit (except for my imagination) for devious ways to restrain, or even suspend, my sweet slave/wife.

optional Sling Extender Bars

optional Top Cross Bars

No longer being in our 20's, or even our 30's, Serafina is truly concerned that she will not be able to please me properly due to physical limitations.  For instance, she's worried that she will be unable to withstand suspension bondage, that the physical demands will be greater than she can endure.

Options like the Sling Extender Bars will assure she can get some of the same sensations obtained with suspension bondage, while being more comfortable physically.  All obtained simply by sitting in a sling that's safely, and securely, attached to our bed.

There's one option I'm considering that would add even more to the price, but the effect it would create (for the right submissive) would be priceless.

I'm talking about the Under-Bed Cage Assembly!

Portable St. Andrews Cross

Can you imagine being locked in a cage directly under your Master's and Mistress' bed at bedtime?

Not that she has any actual veto power, if it's something I truly want I know she'd accede, but I also know Serafina's not sold on the cage option.  Despite my assurances that it would be a place reserved for a future submissive, should we decide to take one, I'm sure she's a little bit afraid I'd be unable to resist the urge to lock her there from time to time.

It could be that is a valid fear.  I do love pushing soft limits.  Without being faced directly with the temptation to have her crawl in to "store" a Liberator Wedge and "accidentally" close the door behind, I can't say for sure.

If given a vote, I am positive that the Portable St Andrew's Cross would be Serafina's choice as an alternative.  The cross is designed to roll under the bed for storage, meaning it's not an option that works well with the cage.

Given my druthers, I'll find a way to get them both!

All pictures associated with this post are property of Dungeon Beds and are used here for educational and illustrative purposes as well as the fact that they are "drool worthy" . . . 

a window to her future - a simple wish for 2012

Life is short, and it is precious.

So is love.

I know there are times we all take life and love for granted.  I think most of us realize that it's the height of foolishness not to cherish our loved ones, but knowing something and living it are often two different things.  It's easy to get lost in the day to day grind of earning a living, building some kind of future, and forget that tomorrow may never arrive.

Not long before I met her, Serafina suffered the kind of loss that either destroys a person, or makes them very aware of the precious nature of life and love.  I get a little teary eyed even thinking about it myself, knowing the depths of her loss, and feeling vicariously how it changed her life.

You see, Serafina lost her eldest son to a drunk and reckless driver, his life taken while walking peacefully beside the road.  She experienced the knock at the door in the middle of the night, law enforcement officer standing here miserably, knowing the hardest words he'll ever have to say to a stranger are; "I regret to inform you," and, "You'll need to come identify the body."

My dear and departed Grandmother also said that every time the Lord closes a door, he opens a window. That's the solace I look for in rough moments.

And from that perspective, I'd like to think I was Serafina's window.

My simple wish for 2012, my personal resolution, is to remember to keep opening windows.  Life's too precious to ever let a closed door stand . . .